vows

dangell427 Posted: Jun 30, 2007 10:33 AM

vows

ok i really couldn`t sleep last night i just kept thinking of all the things i have to get done, like yesterday and i started to think about vows. are any of you writing your own? i know FH isn`t super into doing that he kinda wants this part over as quickly as it can be. but i was considering writing something special for him. any thoughts??? TIA

Toucan311 Posted: Jun 30, 2007 10:36 AM

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I am *not* I'll be nervous and crying as it is - having to recite (and remember) vows that I've written would probably send me into an anxiety attack.

Cntthinkofone Posted: Jun 30, 2007 10:38 AM

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Part of me wants to and the other part isn't sure. FH want's to write our own. I'll have to think about it.

dream426 Posted: Jun 30, 2007 10:40 AM

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We aren't writing out own vows. We are doing the traditional ones.

MyLobster Posted: Jun 30, 2007 10:44 AM

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I was helping a friend with her vows and I found it really useful to google love poems, friendship poems and marriage sayings. We created vows through using those as inspiration.

As far as writing something for him....I went to a friends wedding where they decided not to write their own vows and the bride wrote something for the groom anyway. He was so upset. He said he felt like an @ss bc he didn't do anything for her and felt stupid.

MyLobster Posted: Jun 30, 2007 10:44 AM

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Posted by Mimacat

I am *not* I'll be nervous and crying as it is - having to recite (and remember) vows that I've written would probably send me into an anxiety attack.

I hear ya on that one!

emcheung Posted: Jun 30, 2007 11:00 AM

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i think you both have to decide whether or not you want to write your vows or do the traditional one. if he's adamant about not writing vows, i don't think he'll appreciate you writing a vow secretly to be read during your ceremony. like the other person said, he'll feel like and a$$. if you want to write something special and meaningful, then do it and read it to him on your wedding night alone.

MyLobster Posted: Jun 30, 2007 11:16 AM

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Posted by emcheung

i think you both have to decide whether or not you want to write your vows or do the traditional one. if he's adamant about not writing vows, i don't think he'll appreciate you writing a vow secretly to be read during your ceremony. like the other person said, he'll feel like and a$$. if you want to write something special and meaningful, then do it and read it to him on your wedding night alone.

Agreed. FH doesn't want to write vows but I do. I was thinking of doing the same thing but then realized that it may make him feel bad so I decided against it. I'll be reading it to him privately.

ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted: Jun 30, 2007 11:23 AM

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we're not writing our own...like mimacat said we are going to be nervous enough as it is standing in front of everyone, theres not way id be able to memorize it.not to mention knowing me (but hopefully not) ill be crying the whole time haha

dangell427 Posted: Jun 30, 2007 11:38 AM

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thanks girls!! you are right he would probably get upset with me. and thats the last thing i need on the big day!! and yeahhhh i think i might get too nrevous too!! it`ll be better just having someone tell me what to say so all i have to do is repeat it lol

Papillon25 Posted: Jun 30, 2007 06:26 PM

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I really want to write my own vows but I know it will be too emotional to recite in front of freinds/families.

So, what me and FH have decided to do is say the traditional vows in the ceremony. We will exchange cards the day of the wedding with our personal vows inside. This way it will be just between us.

Welcome to steal the idea if you want

dangell427 Posted: Jun 30, 2007 06:34 PM

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Posted by Papillon25

I really want to write my own vows but I know it will be too emotional to recite in front of freinds/families.

So, what me and FH have decided to do is say the traditional vows in the ceremony. We will exchange cards the day of the wedding with our personal vows inside. This way it will be just between us.

Welcome to steal the idea if you want

thanks! that is really a good idea!!! this way even if he doesn`t come up with something at least it doesn`t look like i`m trying to show him up in front of our friends and fam!

Papillon25 Posted: Jun 30, 2007 06:43 PM

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Posted by dangell427

Posted by Papillon25

I really want to write my own vows but I know it will be too emotional to recite in front of freinds/families.

So, what me and FH have decided to do is say the traditional vows in the ceremony. We will exchange cards the day of the wedding with our personal vows inside. This way it will be just between us.

Welcome to steal the idea if you want

thanks! that is really a good idea!!! this way even if he doesn`t come up with something at least it doesn`t look like i`m trying to show him up in front of our friends and fam!

I am such a geek - I also like the idea of saving the cards so we can reread what we wrote to each other. Like on our anniversary or whatever.

ChristineAaron08 Posted: Jun 30, 2007 07:03 PM

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Posted by Mimacat

I am *not* I'll be nervous and crying as it is - having to recite (and remember) vows that I've written would probably send me into an anxiety attack.

I agree. The traditional ones will be just fine with me...along with a BIG glass of wine beforehand

jjk1007 Posted: Jun 30, 2007 07:06 PM

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Posted by Mimacat

I am *not* I'll be nervous and crying as it is - having to recite (and remember) vows that I've written would probably send me into an anxiety attack.

This is exactly why were not doing our own vows. Very well put!

MrsD71208 Posted: Jun 30, 2007 07:18 PM

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You would think that as a teacher, planning a 'speech' and doing it in front of tons of people would be a breeze...NOT! First off, I cry at stranger's weddings....Second, unless FH wants a face filled with smudged makeup, a sniffling bride or a prolonged ceremony, we'll be using traditional vows lol

Luvbsb4eva Posted: Jun 30, 2007 07:25 PM

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I'm not good with public speaking at all.. and i'm sure i'll be hysterically crying as well, so I don't think there's any way i'll be able to remember the vows I wrote, lol... FH doesn't want to write them either... the regular ones are fine with us! As long as I don't have to say that I'll obey him... and if I say that, then he has to say it too!