Walking me down the Aisle...

Dani777 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 08:56 AM

Walking me down the Aisle...

Ok...so I created a post about this subject a few weeks back, but I'm still SOO lost!! So, Maaaaybe a poll would help me out a bit! lol
Who should walk me down the Aisle..?
My Father passed away in 2005...
My Mom really would rather be escorting to the alter by one of the GM....
My Brother would really like to walk me down..
He's 5 years older then me, but sometimes doesn't act like that...
I just don't know what I should do. My Mom will still do it, but she's not the type who likes the spotlight... Soo...what do you girls think?? TIA!

Snick n Nick Posted: Jul 31, 2008 09:03 AM

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Unless there is a particular reason why you wouldn't want your brother, I would have him do it. Perhaps your mom feels it will remind her that your Dad is not there to do it if she does it, and she would prefer to stay in traditional MOB role? If your brother wants to do it, and you are close to him I would definitely have him do it--I think it would be a lovely brother-sister moment. But there's one thing I didn't see in your OP--who do YOU want to do it?

Dani777 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 09:16 AM

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I wouldn't mind either one of them... I was ALWAYS thinking that it should be someone that raised you... so that's why it puts me up in the air. I am very close to my brother...we share an apartment right now, and FH and him call eachother 'brothers' for over 2 years now! Lol

diva7531 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 09:17 AM

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It doesn't sound like you have a strong preference, so if I were you, I would have my brother walk me.

Dani777 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 09:19 AM

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Thanks... thanks! :)
I don't have a strong preference really... but I do at the same time... I know, that makes NO sense! I keep talking to FH about it... and I think I'm driving him NUTS!... since I reeealy don't know what to do! LOL

Snick n Nick Posted: Jul 31, 2008 09:34 AM

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Since it sounds like you have a really close relationship with your brother, I think I would go with him. Perhaps you can do a spotlight dance with your mom to honor her also? Maybe she would be ok with that?

CandB4604 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 09:53 AM

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I think maybe your mom on one arm, brother on the other arm?

Dani777 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 10:01 AM

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That's one idea I don't really like... Believe me, I've thought about it. It would be cool like that if it was my paretns...my Mom and brother... Hmm.. I don't know. I think I'll just go with my brother...taht's what FH thinks I should do, but I'm just soo confused. We'll see... THANKS girls for all your help!! Keep them coming if you can! lol
The more opions the better ...

T E R I Posted: Jul 31, 2008 10:02 AM

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I think you should have your brother

I have a similar situation, father passed away, my mom would rather not walk me down the aisle, i am having my brother in the wedding party, so i am having my uncle walk me down the aisle-he has always been like a second father to me

DivinelyConnected Posted: Jul 31, 2008 10:09 AM

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I say go with your brother.

I'm in a similar situation but my father is still alive...I just don't have much of a relationship with him and my mom and stepdad divorced when I was about 6. So really the only male constant in my life is my brother who's 4 years younger. We're extremely close (we like to call ourselves twins that are 4yrs apart) LOL. I don't think anyone would really question why he's the one that walked me down the aisle but I don't really want to hurt my dad's feelings. Hmmm maybe the decision will be made if he actually kicks in to help with the wedding.

Jflod710 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 10:12 AM

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You should have your mother and your brother walk you down!!!!

autumnbride10 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 10:13 AM

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Posted by CandB4604

I think maybe your mom on one arm, brother on the other arm?

I was gonna say the same thing....

DeeDee1013 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 10:16 AM

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My dad passed away in 2000.

I'm an older bride...been on my own for quite a while. So, I decided to walk down the aisle alone. I walked about 3/4 of the way down the aisle and stopped...then my DH walked to me and we walked the rest of the way together.

(I do have 2 older brothers).

Cruelty571 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 11:02 AM

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I think they should both walk you down the aisle as well.
It's like honoring them both imo.
But if your mom is really opposed to the idea (shy, or whatnot) and would prefer not to ... I guess that only leaves you with your brother. Wouldn't be nice to force her lol

Dani777 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 11:25 AM

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Awww...all of you girls are GREAT! Thank you soo much for all your help. I really think that I should have him walk me down then. I can make a cute little card that is asking him if he will...maaaaybe...

Yes, my mom is pretty shy.... she wants to be the regular role of MOB... soo... I will more the liekly walk down with him.

Thanks to ALL of you... It's sooo greatly appreciated, .... All of your input was taken into consideration...

Fall BZ 2009 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 11:29 AM

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I vote to have your brother walk you down the aisle since mom will feel more comfortable with a GM walking her down.

Caramelatta Posted: Jul 31, 2008 11:40 AM

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Posted by Snick n Nick

Unless there is a particular reason why you wouldn't want your brother, I would have him do it. Perhaps your mom feels it will remind her that your Dad is not there to do it if she does it, and she would prefer to stay in traditional MOB role? If your brother wants to do it, and you are close to him I would definitely have him do it--I think it would be a lovely brother-sister moment. But there's one thing I didn't see in your OP--who do YOU want to do it?

I second this!!!!!

GinaZ Posted: Jul 31, 2008 11:49 AM

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I think having your brother would be nice. Sounds like he would feel honored if you asked him.

Dani777 Posted: Jul 31, 2008 11:52 AM

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yes... I think he would be honored. He even asked me...but I was so set on having my Mom at that point in time...taht I said no thanks... Now I am regretting that... so thus the reason I want to make him a little card or something....
Guess I'll run over to MIcahels right now... THANKS GIRLS!!! Sooo appreciated!!!

PegaLega Posted: Jul 31, 2008 11:56 AM

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I would say your brother or walk alone.
That is up to you.
If your mom doesnt really want to then I would allow your brother to do it, Im sure it would be an honor