Wedding

I say this to every bride i know..... the stress factor is entirely up to you. You can either let every little thing bother you, OR u can enjoy your engagement. Coming from someone who was on a VERY tight budget, and being that the hubby & i were paying for everything ourselves, we definetly could've been a bunch of stressballs...but we made the decision early on to know that not everything can be perfect, people will be people and to ignore the drama, and yes - things will go wrong...BUT if u remember to breathe, and u remember that it's about the two of you, ur engagement will be one of the most special times in your life. AND it makes ur day that much better when u can look around & say 'WOW - we did this AND we actually enjoyed doing it'. The only time i really got stressed/emotional was the month before the wedding & honestly it's just unavoidable because u have so much running around to do lol...plus my mother made me nuts (love her though!) Other then that, i really can't complain about how our planning went! things to remember : stay organized, communicate with your vendors, shop around & do what you can afford, and remember to spend some time with ur fiance OUTSIDE of wedding planning.

good luck!

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Posted by jtgarsik

I say this to every bride i know..... the stress factor is entirely up to you. You can either let every little thing bother you, OR u can enjoy your engagement. Coming from someone who was on a VERY tight budget, and being that the hubby & i were paying for everything ourselves, we definetly could've been a bunch of stressballs...but we made the decision early on to know that not everything can be perfect, people will be people and to ignore the drama, and yes - things will go wrong...BUT if u remember to breathe, and u remember that it's about the two of you, ur engagement will be one of the most special times in your life. AND it makes ur day that much better when u can look around & say 'WOW - we did this AND we actually enjoyed doing it'. The only time i really got stressed/emotional was the month before the wedding & honestly it's just unavoidable because u have so much running around to do lol...plus my mother made me nuts (love her though!) Other then that, i really can't complain about how our planning went! things to remember : stay organized, communicate with your vendors, shop around & do what you can afford, and remember to spend some time with ur fiance OUTSIDE of wedding planning.

good luck!

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Couldn't have said it better myself.

JTGarsik...well said. It's definitely worth it. Have your BM's help you if you feel like you won't have enough time to do everything. Plus, you have a HUGE support system on LIW. Right ladies?

So, now I have a question for you...is it that you don't want to plan a wedding and would rather elope or do you just want to hold off another year so you have time to plan?

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Posted by dedecakes

JTGarsik...well said. It's definitely worth it. Have your BM's help you if you feel like you won't have enough time to do everything. Plus, you have a HUGE support system on LIW. Right ladies?

So, now I have a question for you...is it that you don't want to plan a wedding and would rather elope or do you just want to hold off another year so you have time to plan?

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I was thinking the SAME Thing!! ha

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Posted by jtgarsik

I say this to every bride i know..... the stress factor is entirely up to you. You can either let every little thing bother you, OR u can enjoy your engagement. Coming from someone who was on a VERY tight budget, and being that the hubby & i were paying for everything ourselves, we definetly could've been a bunch of stressballs...but we made the decision early on to know that not everything can be perfect, people will be people and to ignore the drama, and yes - things will go wrong...BUT if u remember to breathe, and u remember that it's about the two of you, ur engagement will be one of the most special times in your life. AND it makes ur day that much better when u can look around & say 'WOW - we did this AND we actually enjoyed doing it'. The only time i really got stressed/emotional was the month before the wedding & honestly it's just unavoidable because u have so much running around to do lol...plus my mother made me nuts (love her though!) Other then that, i really can't complain about how our planning went! things to remember : stay organized, communicate with your vendors, shop around & do what you can afford, and remember to spend some time with ur fiance OUTSIDE of wedding planning.

good luck!

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very good point. There are some stresses you cant avoid and cant help but worry but MANY things are not worth worrying about. I see some people stressing out certain things when in reality its not that big and no need to drive yourself crazy over it.

Yes - its worth it!

There were def moments when we were having doubts due to the cost. We kept saying we should have had a destination wedding....HOWEVER the day was so amazing and worth every single penny we paid!

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Posted by OY

Hello.. I'm still trying to plan a wedding for 2009... Can someone tell me if its worth all the stress and planning? TIA!

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This is completely up to you and not something someone else can answer.

Every person is different--some prefer to do a whole big wedding that takes months (sometimes years to plan)...others don't want to do that and do something small or even spur of the moment.

The question you have to first ask yourself is do you want to get married? If so, what kind of wedding do you want? Then that should answer the question for you.