Wedding Delima so early?

Wedding Delima so early?

Hello! I'm new to the board and here i come with a delima, how bad am i?

Well, you see. My parents (and the rest of my mom's side of the family) are REALLY REALLY Christian, and my fiance and i aren't. Well, my mom (and family) want me to have it in the church, because it would be free because we're members. I don't like the look of our church and it's in a horrid part of town.

I wanted to have it a nice garden somewhere, and there is a nice place like 2 hours away (Dallas, Tx) and so... I'm left with my mom saying 'no you ARE having it in the church' and my fiance does NOT like the way my family pushes me around..

The only reason I'm letting them is because they are in fact paying for it all (because his parents hate me, and they are just disagreeable people.)

Help

EDIT: yeah... sorry bout the... ... i just kinda joined the board. I need help! And ...didn't ... realize. Oh well.

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Your parents need to respect your wishes - after all, it is your wedding. howeer, if they are paying for it, i can see their point as well. is there any way you can come to a compromise that everyone is happy with - or can you afford to pay for your own wedding and have it the way you want it?

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Gah. just realized. Oh well. nvm

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Posted by edvixen

Gah. just realized. Oh well. nvm

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just realized what? i'm so confused

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Just talk to your parents about it. It is YOUR wedding, I know you know that but even if your parents are paying for it they need to know that it is your day, not their wedding. You could talk to them about 1) Having the Ceremony there and the Reception somewhere you and your FH really like, or 2) you could have the preist from your familys church marry you where you want to have your ceremony or......3) Just find another church thats not so scary to get married in...Hope that helps!

My mom is really religious too and Im not so much but I know that she wants us to have it in a church so I agreed cuz I kinda did too but she was saying she wanted to have a mass and do all this other stuff and I said no because its not what Jon and I feel comfortable with, Just sit down and talk it out :)

Good Luck!!

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Is your reason not to have it there b/c your not really religious or that its not that 'nice' looking and in a 'horrid' part of town? It seems like you that you saying you're not that religious is an excuse. FYI, if you want your marriage to be acknowledged in the church you will have to get married in a church. If not, the church does not regard you as married.