Wedding dilemma
Hi girls!
I normally don't post/vent about personal stuff, but I really need to get this off my chest and maybe get some advice. My first cousin. who by the way I am not close with at all, got engaged about two weeks ago. Well, my aunt called last night and told us they booked a date. September 22, 2007 - 3 weeks before my wedding! And this was after they totally disrespected me and my FH by looking in October 2007 (and November 2007). I have been oevrshadowed by my cousins my entire life, and now they are gettng married three weeks before me! I know this sounds silly, but my dad's side of the family just has no respect or kindness for us at all. AND to top it off, FH and I have known about another wedding we have the exact same day at the exact same time - FH's Very good friend, whom might even ask him to be in his bridal party. Now, normally this would be a very simple desicion for me. My cousin is never there for anything important for me in my entire life, totally did not care when my wedding was since he was obviously looking in the same month, and does give one ounce about my feelings. Honestly as silly as this sounds, I am closer with a mosquito that bit me than I am with my cousin. PLUS, when his sister got married (my other cousin), FH was not even invited (I was 20 and we were dating for 3 and a half years, he had been to many holidays, etc.). Anyway, we would very easily chose the friend's wedding who we are much closer with. BUT, I don't want to upset and disrespect my dad by not going to my cousins wedding. I know this is a year and a half away and I don't have to make a decision now, but it is really bugging me.
Thanks for listening! I feel better already getting it out.
By the way, we thought about going to my cousins ceremony and then our friends reception, but if FH is in the BP, then we cannot do this. If we split up at all, we will remain split up for the day. Otherwise, we go together where ever we decide.
I normally don't post/vent about personal stuff, but I really need to get this off my chest and maybe get some advice. My first cousin. who by the way I am not close with at all, got engaged about two weeks ago. Well, my aunt called last night and told us they booked a date. September 22, 2007 - 3 weeks before my wedding! And this was after they totally disrespected me and my FH by looking in October 2007 (and November 2007). I have been oevrshadowed by my cousins my entire life, and now they are gettng married three weeks before me! I know this sounds silly, but my dad's side of the family just has no respect or kindness for us at all. AND to top it off, FH and I have known about another wedding we have the exact same day at the exact same time - FH's Very good friend, whom might even ask him to be in his bridal party. Now, normally this would be a very simple desicion for me. My cousin is never there for anything important for me in my entire life, totally did not care when my wedding was since he was obviously looking in the same month, and does give one ounce about my feelings. Honestly as silly as this sounds, I am closer with a mosquito that bit me than I am with my cousin. PLUS, when his sister got married (my other cousin), FH was not even invited (I was 20 and we were dating for 3 and a half years, he had been to many holidays, etc.). Anyway, we would very easily chose the friend's wedding who we are much closer with. BUT, I don't want to upset and disrespect my dad by not going to my cousins wedding. I know this is a year and a half away and I don't have to make a decision now, but it is really bugging me.
Thanks for listening! I feel better already getting it out.
By the way, we thought about going to my cousins ceremony and then our friends reception, but if FH is in the BP, then we cannot do this. If we split up at all, we will remain split up for the day. Otherwise, we go together where ever we decide.
