A good friend of mine is getting married for the...(brace yourselves) 4th time. She marrired once before I met her and since I met her - she's married in Vegas 3 times (twice to the same man, hard to explain).
I sent my standard gift for her second marriage (a beautiful sculpture). The third & fourth she married the same man after divorcing him and she kinda kept that away from me knowing how much i DESPISED that man....so I never got her anything & she never really made a big to-do about it..
Now - i'm in her wedding this time. It's in Chicago, so it involves hotel rooms, car rental, etc. She bought the dress (it's Hawaiian themed) & flipflops for me, but hair & makeup i'll pay for on the day of.
What do I do for a gift?????? I'm truly at a loss here.... (please keep in mind - we are paying for our own wedding, so all money is MEGA budgeted for).
Espo22
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
I dont know because i never gave a gift at a wedding. Did she have her bridal shower already, i guess maybe something that is left on the registry
AmandaLynn04
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
I'd give them $100, or a gift off of their registry for about the same. No more than that.
davenjess
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
Posted by Espo22
I dont know because i never gave a gift at a wedding. Did she have her bridal shower already, i guess maybe something that is left on the registry
They aren't registering. They are combining both of their households and they aren't young. He's in his late 30's and she's 35.
No shower, no registry. This is his first wedding...so that's the reason for the hoopla with the wedding -otherwise - i'm sure she would've gone to vegas again...
I love her - please don't get me wrong...i just feel so badly for her 2 daughters. The example she is setting for them makes me sad...
Soon2beAlberti
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
Honestly, I think anything you give her should be well appreciated. If you ever find the right time just find a way to let her know that you are on a shoestring budget and that you are honored to be in her wedding party because she means a great deal to you but that you won't be able to shower her with lavish gifts because money is really tight. As someone who's planned and gone through with FOUR weddings...she should understand completely
yelley77
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
You should buy her, 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands' in hopes of making this one workor, a gift certificate to her divorce lawyer.
LOL
davenjess
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
Posted by yelley77
You should buy her, 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands' in hopes of making this one workor, a gift certificate to her divorce lawyer.
LOL
NICE!!!!! FH said the same thing - maybe get a lawyer on retainer....
yelley77
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
Posted by davenjess
Posted by yelley77
You should buy her, 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands' in hopes of making this one workor, a gift certificate to her divorce lawyer.
LOL
NICE!!!!! FH said the same thing - maybe get a lawyer on retainer....
I'm so glad you were able to take that as a joke!! LOL, I didn't want to offend her since she is your friend, I was just trying to make a funny
davenjess
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
Posted by yelley77
Posted by davenjess
Posted by yelley77
You should buy her, 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands' in hopes of making this one workor, a gift certificate to her divorce lawyer.
LOL
NICE!!!!! FH said the same thing - maybe get a lawyer on retainer....
I'm so glad you were able to take that as a joke!! LOL, I didn't want to offend her since she is your friend, I was just trying to make a funny
Totally took it as a joke!!! My BP girls were laughing that she must use coupons...there has to be a way to afford all the divorces!!!
It takes a LOT to offend me!!!!!
KiTTeN0819
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
Posted by yelley77
You should buy her, 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands' in hopes of making this one workor, a gift certificate to her divorce lawyer.
LOL
Belongs2DanBuckley
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
Get her an engraved picture frame so she can remember the right wedding picture to put in it!
jk...but not really
Belongs2DanBuckley
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
No in all seriousness though....are they going anywhere cool on their HM...maybe you can get her an underwater camera or something....just a small gift but a useful one- its about $200+ that should be enough considering all the other things your spending $$ on...either that or see if a group wants to chip into soemthing for the couple like luggage or a TV or a BBQ or soemthing....HTH! Excuse my wise assness
kristi313
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
i think anything you give her will be fine and appreciated she can't expect people to go overboard seeing as this is her 4th go at marriage. you could try to hint around about things on your registery see if she comments that she's always wanted one of those, etc.
davenjess
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
Posted by kristi313
i think anything you give her will be fine and appreciated she can't expect people to go overboard seeing as this is her 4th go at marriage. you could try to hint around about things on your registery see if she comments that she's always wanted one of those, etc.
True - but I don't think she's even looked at it...and i only have a few days left....we're leaving on Thursday night...
lilangel369
Posted:
Member since
Re: Wedding Gift Help Needed BADLY!!!
Posted by davenjess
Posted by kristi313
i think anything you give her will be fine and appreciated she can't expect people to go overboard seeing as this is her 4th go at marriage. you could try to hint around about things on your registery see if she comments that she's always wanted one of those, etc.
True - but I don't think she's even looked at it...and i only have a few days left....we're leaving on Thursday night...
