Wedding is off.

Wow, I am speechless. You are such an elegant young woman with your whole life ahead of you. Your friends say it is a blessing and to me, it does sound like it certainly is. You sound like an absolutely amazing woman and he is the one who doesn't deserve you. In time, the pain will heal and you will find someone to spend the rest of your life with who deserves you and who you deserve - a good, kind, mature man. Stay strong in yourself. I am so sorry for you and your family.

i'm so sorry this happened to you. i know it doesn't help now, but you deserve so much better than him. stay strong and you will get through this!

I am so sorry you are going through this.
You will be a better person b/c of this. Time will heal and you will find someone who deserves to be with you

I'm soo sorry this happened to you...but at the same time count your blessings that he's out of your life. YOu deserve better then the treatment he gave you...what he did in my opinion un-does any good in the last 3 yeasr of your relatinship becuase he showed himself for who he really is...immature and a coward.

I'm so sorry to hear this

You will find someone who deserves you, and you will be thankful that you didnt marry this guy. You deserve SO much better!

SO SO sorry!

I'm so sorry to hear this.. I don't know you, but i can feel your pain.. you sound like you are an amazing woman, and you will find someone out thre that will respect you. Everything happens for are reason sweety, even though we don't realize it now, because the pain is so strong. Time heals all wounds, its hard at first, but trust me it will get better everyday.. If u need someone to talk please fm me.. You are in my thoughts

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wow I'm so sorry I wish you all the best

I'm confused where you say you were there for her she felt bad for being with your fiance...is that correct or did I misunderstand

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Well, she is a depressed person. I assume this is b/c e/1 is sick and tired of her cheating behavoiurs. So I try not to show my anger towards her, because she is obviously such a fragile person. So when I first found out, I wanted her to stop talking to my ex...I thought removing her from the situation would help him see that he does love me. So I told her that I was happy to be there for her, just please do not talk to him...So yes, initially she felt bad...But I knew she needed a friend.

But it was useless, b/c she decided she had nothing to do with our break up and would continue to talk to him and work with him.

Anyhow, everyone, thank you for your support, kind words and advice. I'm trying to focus on my exams right now, and your encouragement really helps.

Hun I know what you are going through. I went through the same thing 3 years ago. There are no words to describe the pain and betrayal I felt. I am so sorry you are going through this!

People are going to tell you that you are better off in the end and time heals all wounds. While this is true, it doesn't change the feeling inside , or how your entire world gets destroyed. You are going to go through every emotion humanly possible , at different stages.Allow yourself to feel these things ,it will help you heal. You will go through the 5 stages of grief , much like did

1-Denial-'this can't be happening to me' Not accepting or even acknowledging the loss.
2-Anger-'why me?', feelings of wanting to fight back or get even.
3-Bargaining-bargaining often takes place before the loss. Attempting to make deals with the person who is leaving
4-Depression-overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, frustration, bitterness, self pity, mourning loss of person as well as the hopes, dreams and plans for the future. Feeling lack of control, feeling numb.
5-Acceptance-there is a difference between resignation and acceptance. You have to accept the loss, not just try to bear it quietly. Realization that it takes two to make or break a marriage. Finding the good that can come out of the pain of loss, finding comfort and healing. Our goals turn toward personal growth.


****trust me when I say, you WILL get through this , and come out stronger .

If you need to talk, you can FM me anytime

OMG i am soo sorry! you poor thing. I wish you all the best.. you def. deserve better than that!!!

I am echoing the other girls sentiments, but I am so very sorry to hear about this. I know it is much easier for me to say than for you to feel but one day when you are healed, I am most positive you will be in a wonderful, loving relationship and have the hindsight to recognize that he was not it for you...you sound (and look beautifulBTW )like an extremely intelligent girl..keep your head up and enjoy life before meeting the RIGHT ONE...much love to you girl xxoxoxoxox

I don't know you but you are beautiful, you are young and you seem smart. It will get easier. Maybe not this week, this month... but eventually. You will be ok. Hang in there.

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Posted by sassygirl9

wow I'm so sorry I wish you all the best

I'm confused where you say you were there for her she felt bad for being with your fiance...is that correct or did I misunderstand

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Well, she is a depressed person. I assume this is b/c e/1 is sick and tired of her cheating behavoiurs. So I try not to show my anger towards her, because she is obviously such a fragile person. So when I first found out, I wanted her to stop talking to my ex...I thought removing her from the situation would help him see that he does love me. So I told her that I was happy to be there for her, just please do not talk to him...So yes, initially she felt bad...But I knew she needed a friend.

But it was useless, b/c she decided she had nothing to do with our break up and would continue to talk to him and work with him.

Anyhow, everyone, thank you for your support, kind words and advice. I'm trying to focus on my exams right now, and your encouragement really helps.

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wow...you are a better person than i could ever be....where did you find it in you to be this kind to her? clearly you deserve better

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I know this must be such a difficult time but in time everything will get better. Now is the time to focus on your needs and eventually you will find the right one..someone who will appreciate all that you have to give and not run away to another woman. You deserve only the best!

I am sitting here stunned, i can not even believe this is happening, I hope you get through this, and i am sure you will be better off without him in the long run, I cant imagine what your going through, but you have to stay strong and everything will work out in the end.
Lots of

You really sound like an amazing woman and I know that you can get through this. We are ALL here for you, whenever you feel the need to talk to someone.

Be strong and know that I am praying for you!!!

I am soooo sorry that this is happening to you. Reading your post to me it seems that you are a very sweet and caring person. I wish nothing but the best for you in life.
Everyone will say it-it happened for a reason-what that reason is you wont know until it happens. You will be upset and you are allowed to be! I just hope that in the end you look at yourself and see a beautiful girl who WILL be strong and get thru this