wedding party dilema

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Posted by DINAAMATUCCIO

Ok so I have a problem with choosing the bridal party ... I have a big family so I said for those brothers and sisters who are married & have kids their child will be in the wedding and those siblings without, they will be in the wedding ...but my main concern is FH's brother (he only has one) & he has four kids so I was going to put 2 of his kids in the wedding, but of course FMIL has a problem with that she said that he should be the best man but FH doesn't want him to be the best man, So she said i have to put him and his wife (that i am not even that close) with in my wedding... So I said it's not fair to my family and sisters that have kids if I put both of them in my wedding so I decided to put his brother and one child and if any of my family says anything I'll just tell them well he only has one brother... So my dilema is this ... If I put his brother in the wedding party do I have to put his wife ???

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Are you putting your brother's and sister's spouses in the party?

Dina,

You have to put in the people YOU want in your bridal party...it is nobody else's choice but yours! Im not putting Fhs sister in law in..I love her and would love to have her in but i cant add anyone else! If you are not close with her than personally you shouldnt have her in it

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Posted by dazies1011

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Posted by DINAAMATUCCIO

Ok so I have a problem with choosing the bridal party ... I have a big family so I said for those brothers and sisters who are married & have kids their child will be in the wedding and those siblings without, they will be in the wedding ...but my main concern is FH's brother (he only has one) & he has four kids so I was going to put 2 of his kids in the wedding, but of course FMIL has a problem with that she said that he should be the best man but FH doesn't want him to be the best man, So she said i have to put him and his wife (that i am not even that close) with in my wedding... So I said it's not fair to my family and sisters that have kids if I put both of them in my wedding so I decided to put his brother and one child and if any of my family says anything I'll just tell them well he only has one brother... So my dilema is this ... If I put his brother in the wedding party do I have to put his wife ???

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Are you putting your brother's and sister's spouses in the party?

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No other spouses are in my wedding party .. the married siblings have kids so they arent even going to be in my wedding party, their kids will.... his brother is the only exception ... and I dont want to take someone out just to put his wife in!

did anyone give you **** because of it?

And thank you ladies for everyones help on this topic!!

dina come on... youre SO much smarter than that... you do NOT have to put her in the bridal party... its YOUR bridal party. If you were closer with her, i would definitely say that you should do it, but youre not even close with her! I be she'd actually feel a little awkward in it, too.

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Posted by DINAAMATUCCIO

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Posted by dazies1011

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Posted by DINAAMATUCCIO

Ok so I have a problem with choosing the bridal party ... I have a big family so I said for those brothers and sisters who are married & have kids their child will be in the wedding and those siblings without, they will be in the wedding ...but my main concern is FH's brother (he only has one) & he has four kids so I was going to put 2 of his kids in the wedding, but of course FMIL has a problem with that she said that he should be the best man but FH doesn't want him to be the best man, So she said i have to put him and his wife (that i am not even that close) with in my wedding... So I said it's not fair to my family and sisters that have kids if I put both of them in my wedding so I decided to put his brother and one child and if any of my family says anything I'll just tell them well he only has one brother... So my dilema is this ... If I put his brother in the wedding party do I have to put his wife ???

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Are you putting your brother's and sister's spouses in the party?

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No other spouses are in my wedding party .. the married siblings have kids so they arent even going to be in my wedding party, their kids will.... his brother is the only exception ... and I dont want to take someone out just to put his wife in!

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I say don't do it, you don't have to do what you don't want to. I'm still debating on having FH's sister because of how she handles things. I can see all my bridesmaids fighting because of her.
Do what YOU want to do !!!

Pushy inlaws make me Screw tradition and etiquette. The point of a wedding party is to have people you love and are close to stand up for your marriage. You definitely don't need to include anyone you don't want to.

HTH

I just read this now. I know what youre going thru.

FH took it upon himself to ask his friend and his friends son to be in the wedding. I dont have a fg for the boy but thats ok. SOOO the other night we were with them and I was like Great, do I have to ask his wife now?

AND another one of his friends GF's thinks shes in the wedding too!!

Ya know what tho?? If they werent asked, theyre not in it. Stand your ground if you feel strongly about it...honestly it can get messy!