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Wedding related JOB descrimination... get this

Original post by beatle06

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I have been looking for a job in NYC over the past few months. Someone at my current job gave me a name of a recruitre to use..

so i emailed her. She left me a vm and in the mean time my friend at work asked me if i mentioned to her that i was getting married in the near future, i was like, no i didnt' why shouldn't I?

Apparently this recruiter thinks that girsl are frazzled or something a few months prior and will not be able to focus in a new job, she prefers to recruit them AFTER the wedding, so should the bride to be not measure up in the position, the recruiter doesn't loose her status with the company.. ridiculous right???

angnick Thread views: 1,658

Re: Wedding related JOB descrimination... get this

Posted by leese

I have to be completely honest.....

I'd probably be fired from work if i was new to this job. And that's why I waited till after the wedding to find a new one. I am not frazzled, but as you can see I am online a lot, I'm doing my programs as we speak, etc. etc. etc. I can kinda understand what they are saying.

But if you are looking for a new job, I'd just mention once you were offered a position that you will need vacation time for your wedding.

HTH [/QUOTE

I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU. Look at us on LI weddings all day, do you know any boss that would put up with it if you were a new employee?

MrsH1156 Thread views: 1,658

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It's completely unprofessional in my opinion. As someone who is in that professional, let me know if you'd like a referral to some people in NYC and I'll give you some names.

ML110 Thread views: 1,658

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Posted by leese

I have to be completely honest.....

I'd probably be fired from work if i was new to this job. And that's why I waited till after the wedding to find a new one. I am not frazzled, but as you can see I am online a lot, I'm doing my programs as we speak, etc. etc. etc. I can kinda understand what they are saying.

But if you are looking for a new job, I'd just mention once you were offered a position that you will need vacation time for your wedding.

HTH

i also completely agree with this... so many of us are on here during the day....even me whos already married - LOL-and we all know the different situations that come up when planning a wedding- theres A LOT to think about, and plan... and work really isn't your number 1 priority while you're planning a weddng...its what we call ' bride brain'
so i can sort of see where shes coming from... doesn't make it right that she tells other people that,, but i can definitely see where shes coming from.

CJStein Thread views: 1,658

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That's just stupid. Sorry.

Blu-ize Thread views: 1,658

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It's not right what she said, but it happens. Be upfront about your status if asked. You may not get the question. Try not to project what will happen.

I would wear the ring. Show your integrity and be honest if asked about time off. Let them know that you would be happy to make the hours up or fill in for others afterwards.

This shows you are really interested in the position and about work in general.

Integrity and honestly can get you the job sometimes.

ellebelle1 Thread views: 1,658

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Ok, that's totally illegal. If you had proof that you were discriminated against because of your marital status, you could easily have a lawsuit.

CC59 Thread views: 1,658

Re: Wedding related JOB descrimination... get this

when i was student teaching a few years ago the professors told us a story about a girls that was engaged and her cooperating teacher gave her poor write-ups saying that she was too focused on her wedding planning rather than student teaching. I didn't know this girl so I can't say if its true or not, but that stinks. The professors told us o keep our personal lives personal so they can't be used against us. Sad but true.

SIBride06 Thread views: 1,658

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Posted by cmastro25

You know what, I don't like to hide the fact that I'm getting married. If someone doesn't want to hire me becuase they feel that my personal life will interfere with my work life, then I don't want to work there. People stink!

Well said!

Aphrodite07 Thread views: 1,658

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Yes I agree its not fair and Its def discrimination.
and that is coming from an HR professional!

beatle06 Thread views: 1,658

Re: Wedding related JOB descrimination... get this

Posted by Aphrodite07

Yes I agree its not fair and Its def discrimination.
and that is coming from an HR professional!

thanks girl!

beatle06 Thread views: 1,658

Re: Wedding related JOB descrimination... get this

I can't bring myself to call this women, the only reason I should is b/c she has worked with other coworkers that I know who referred me.

But i can't be dishonest with her its just not my style and i don't want to crack b/c i'm trying to be something i'm not... hmmm my FI thinks I should just go along with it unitl she finds out, but to me not telling the truth is the same as lying...