Wedding Related - need suggestions please...

Ronkonkomonga Posted: Nov 13, 2004 03:26 PM

Wedding Related - need suggestions please...

I was invited to a wedding that my ex boyfriend will be attending with his new fiance and his immediate family. I dated this guy for 3 years, and almost got engaged to him.

The snag is that there is a moderate amount of bad blood between me, the ex's entire family, and his new gold digger... I mean fiance.

Though I have moved on - I clearly have pent up anger towards the entire group. I would love to avoid the whole scenario, because it will just makes me tense and brings back ugly memories. I know I should be able to go, but I would rather not.

My FH likes to be the stand up guy, and says I should be able to go to this wedding regardless of what happened. He is giving me guilt that he would like to attend this wedding with his FW, but he is willing to go alone. Plus - the couple getting married are friends of the FH that we have both known since High School and they are very nice.

Should I suck it up and go? After reading this - seems like I should - but I'm looking to the brides for reasons not to attend - or a good kick in the a$$ to show me how stupid I am being. Thanks!!!

azoodie Posted: Nov 13, 2004 03:33 PM

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your fh wants to go, you've said what you had to say...i say feck em! and go for it!!!

Mrs_B Posted: Nov 13, 2004 03:39 PM

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Be the better person.. go, have an awesome time, and don't even give any of them the time of day.

Dooodles Posted: Nov 13, 2004 03:46 PM

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Don't let all the crap ruin you missing a friends wedding. Keep a smile on your face and be polite for her sake. Sorry to agree with your FI - let him go and show off his FW!

OSCARtheGROOM Posted: Nov 13, 2004 04:09 PM

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Screw your ex and his family. Go to the wedding. You have a fh who loves you very much, and wants you to be there with him.

Littletowers21 Posted: Nov 13, 2004 04:33 PM

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Don't let them bother you. You go and have a good time.

frosty Posted: Nov 13, 2004 04:39 PM

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I say go to the wedding and IGNORE the annoying folks. Don't let them spoil what would be a good time.

Happybride2005 Posted: Nov 13, 2004 04:44 PM

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you should go to the wedding. don't let the ex and his family make u feel u don't want to go.

d&d05 Posted: Nov 13, 2004 04:52 PM

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Go and take pictures so I can see him getting married!

No, really, do whatever you can handle. If you can handle it, GO and wear an awesome dress so John can show you off!

Ronkonkomonga Posted: Nov 13, 2004 04:57 PM

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Awww - thanks so much guys - I love this website.

Good idea Denise - Its actually Gary's wedding - remember him? John's at his bachelor party tonight.

DebMaher Posted: Nov 13, 2004 05:08 PM

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Ronk:
Go, enjoy and don't spend a lot of time worrying about the things you cannot control -- i.e. how past tense people in your life react. You have moved on, are better for it, and should not be cheated out of celebrating with a friend.

February05 Posted: Nov 13, 2004 05:45 PM

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I have to break out the age old wisdom here.

'success is the greatest revenge!'

you are succesful in your career, you are in a great relationship with a man who truly believes in you... and you are a strong woman! they don't have the power to bring you down, and i dont see any reason why you shouldn't go and enjoy yourself. And also, i feel like theyre going to be all high on themselves if they see that your FH is there and you're not--- and they dont sound like the type of people that deserve to be high on themselves

Go and have a Great time!!! (oh, and if for any reason Anyone gives you a problem.... RUN to the nearest computer, Post your location, and we'll Immediately come to your rescue!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

hbradio Posted: Nov 13, 2004 08:20 PM

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Go, have a good time. and F everyone else!!!!

ckgmwedding Posted: Nov 13, 2004 09:34 PM

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Posted by neeniebean86

I have to break out the age old wisdom here.

'success is the greatest revenge!'

you are succesful in your career, you are in a great relationship with a man who truly believes in you... and you are a strong woman! they don't have the power to bring you down, and i dont see any reason why you shouldn't go and enjoy yourself. And also, i feel like theyre going to be all high on themselves if they see that your FH is there and you're not--- and they dont sound like the type of people that deserve to be high on themselves

Go and have a Great time!!! (oh, and if for any reason Anyone gives you a problem.... RUN to the nearest computer, Post your location, and we'll Immediately come to your rescue!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

Great Post~! I have nothing more to add other than I would FLY in to come to your rescue. Screw them- you win

Ronkonkomonga Posted: Nov 13, 2004 09:47 PM

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seriously you guys are the best -

how funny it would be though to show up with a bunch of you.

I 'll be sure to post pictures!

dm24angel Posted: Nov 13, 2004 10:00 PM

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Thats a hard one. I would personally prefer to stay home, but if your saying that FH will go without you if you do, then I would go, as I think it wouldn't look good for him to go alone.

It will be hard to go and keep to yourself but you can do it. It will be fine in the end!

chachou22 Posted: Nov 13, 2004 10:31 PM

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I would go to make sure he knows he is not that important, because if you dont go he might think you were to scared to see him
I would go

alibali Posted: Nov 13, 2004 11:09 PM

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if you're close with the marrying couple i'd say go. worst comes to worst avoid the exboyfriend. it may not be the easiest thing to do, but sometimes ignoring someone is the best. and if you do get stuck near him, make sure to show off how great your FH is.