Well, it's offical our wedding is postponed.

I thought that I would post here too, since I'm on this board the most.I've been having doubts for awhile. And not just cold feet. Fi and have a lot of issues we need to straighten out. We have a 15 month old beautiful son, which makes this even harder. We are planning to postpone for 1 year. In the mean time I have started seeing a psychologist and FI will be going as well. I really want us to have a strong marriage based on love, not need. And right now I don't know which one I feel more,and I don't think that's a way to go into a marriage. It was/is a very hard and sad decision for me. But I truly believe it was the right one. FI agrees that it's probably is for the best, but he is very upset about it. And so am I, when I went to WM the other day to discuss postponing I was in tears, our room ws all set up for a wedding it was heartwrenching. I truly hope that we can work through our problems together and form an even stronger bond with eachother. Nothing would make me happier than for us to get married and have a wonderful and fufilling marriage. FI is a wonderful man, and I pray for everyone's sake that we can work things out. I probably will not be posting as much, but I'm sure I'll be lurking. Thank you all for your advice and support. Hopefully in a few months my planning will be back on and I'll need your help again. Thanks for everything. And Good luck, and God Bless you all.
Andrea

Andrea, Im so sorry to hear this. But Im very proud of you to taking the initiative to see a doctor. He/she will put you on the right path for your own well being. No matter what lies ahead, I wish you the very best. If you ever need to talk, we are all here with open arms.

So sorry but it sounds like it's for the best... good luck and you're doing the right thing!!

I'm sorry to hear but you seem very determined and mature in your decision. I'm glad that you and FH are dealing with this now rather than after the wedding.

Best of luck!

I am really sorry to hear that! You are definitely doing the right thing by waiting and working on your relationship. I hope you end up with whatever is best for you and your son and your FI. You are making a mature and difficult decision and I really hope that whatever happens, you end up happy.

I'm so sorry you are going through this - but it's admirable the way you are handling it. I can only imagine how difficult it was for you and FH to realize that this is not the right time for you to begin a marriage. I have been through divorce and it was one of the most difficult things I've ever endured and I wouldn't wish it on anyone! I wish you well - I know everything will work out for the best!!

Good luck and God Bless.
Angela

Sorry to hear this - but it totally sounds like you are doing the right thing.

Andrea,

I know it's so difficult, but you're defintiely doing the right thing for yourselves and the baby. It's better to enter into marriage when you're fully prepared for it and you know your exact reasons for doing it rather than just making the leap blindly. I really hope everything works out for you and your family. I can't even express enough how good a decision you're making. We have sucha high divorce rate because most people don't face their problems BEFORE getting married and then are forced to confornt them when it's too late. I think you're making the best decision. Hopefully these professionals will help you work out your individual problems and teach you strategies for coping with yuor problems as a couple. Best of Luck, God Bless you.

Good luck, I definitely think you're doing the smart thing by postponing and working on your relationship. And I admire you for knowing the difference between want and need....remember whenever you hear talk about weddings or see reception halls all set up - there's a marriage beyond the wedding and it's hard work. You really have to want to be married and not just have a wedding.

Best wishes for you, your FH and your little boy.

Thank you all for your responses and support, I really appreciate it. Although I am sure that this is the right decision it is nice hear it from other brides to be. I might post from time to time because this is a very tough time for us. Thank you again.
Andrea

I am sure that it is the right thing for you guys, and I commend your strength

Wow, you are a very brave woman. I give you a lot of credit. Best of luck to you sweetie. Don't worry, everything will work out for you. I always say, that everything happens for a reason.

Andrea, good luck and I hope everything works out. I think you've both made a wise decision and what you said about wanting instead of needing is very true.

It's clear that you love each other, I hope this extra time and therapy just reinforces that!

You're both very strong and brave for coming to this decision. I truly hope and pray things will work out for the best for you guys!! Stay strong!

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Thank you all for your responses and support, I really appreciate it. Although I am sure that this is the right decision it is nice hear it from other brides to be. I might post from time to time because this is a very tough time for us. Thank you again.
Andrea

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I think you'll find that despite occasional drama, the ladies here really know how to rally around and support each other. You may find it a good outlet and/or a good diversion.

you are very strong and very brave for being able to make this decision.
I am glad you are doing what is best for you.

Good luck to you!
I'm sure this will all work out for the best - you and your FH seem to be on the right path to happiness.

I think that your decision is very admirable.
I hope everything works out for you.
Good luck and God Bless.