What about a Baby Shower???

I don't want to sound selfish or anything, but we really need a baby shower. And I really want one! I didn't have a Bridal Shower, I just told people, throw me a Baby Shower when the time comes. Since we live out of state, and with the cost of the wedding, I thought it would be easier for everyone. Well, now the time comes, and there's no one to throw one for me! I think it's bad enough that it can't be a surprise since we live in NC, but for me to have to throw one for myself.... I DON'T THINK THAT's RIGHT? Now that's being selfish! Well, my mom was suppose to arrange for the baby shower to be this passed weekend since we had to go to LI for a wedding, but it was inconvenient for my MIL, so she wouldn't give my mother names and addresses for invitations. Well, because of that, now my mom will not be responsible for the baby shower because she couldn't do it for when she wanted to. She says my MIL can be responsible now. She's such a hipacrit (sp?) She's mad at my MIL because it wasn't convenient for her, but now since she thinks it's not convenient for herself, to H ELL with it! We honestly didn't want the baby shower now because we're not even registered yet, and we didn't have time. We drove up to LI on Saturday, and left Sunday night. It was a quick visit. But that made my mom mad. She is always like this, and I can't stand it anymore. She always does something to upset me. Anyway... now it looks like if I want a baby shower, I'll have to throw one for myself. I really feel horrible. Everyone acts like they don't care how me or my DH feel about this. It's what makes them happy. I have a sister and girlfriends, but they don't have the money for one, and I understand about that. I just feel so unimportant! Is it really asking for much? When we first found out we were PG, everyone wanted to throw one, and now no one could care less. Sorry this is so long, I just needed to vent... Thanks for listening!

AWE, Melissa, dont be so bummed. Maybe there's one being planned that youre not aware of ?

Maybe you can ask your sister about it.

Cheer up, Im sure your baby will have everything he/she needs. Mommy and daddy's LOVE!

Melissa You sound sooo stressed OUT! I am so sorry that your family seems to be uninterested in throwing you a baby shower. It's difficult to ever find a rational explaination for others peoples' attitudes or reactions sometimes.

Do you think it's possible that this is all just an act (your Mom and MIL?), just to throw you off the 'scent' of when your shower might be? Perhaps they are scheming behind your back and then you'll REALLY be surprised! Try to have faith - I know you and your hubby could use the financial support of a shower, but you can get by with the bare minimum in 'gear' until after the baby is born.

If you really don't end up having a shower, maybe you can send friends and family inexpensive baby announcements, and maybe some close relatives and friends will end up sending you some much-needed necessities for the baby.

Hang in there and don't stress over this - New Grandparents will NOT let their precious grandchild go without clothing and creature comforts!