Long story short. I picked the best bms possible. I made sure I picked personable people who won't cause drama. I DON'T WANT DRAMA. Anywayz, they are now planning my shower. I know this because they called to get my opinion. My MH wants it stripper free, the other four want a stripper. The other four said they would plan a bacheloret (sp) party for me with the stripper and not contribute to the shower. What do I do/say? My MH is working very hard finding a place, not to mention the guest list is over 50 ladies Ladies, how do I solve this without feelings getting hurt. I love them all and they are only trying to do what they think I would like. HELP PLEASE I wont' mind a traditional shower, I also say bring on the stripper. How do I get them to work together?
Sorry I lied, it is kinda long.
AnniesSS
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IMHO, strippers are for the bachlorette party and not the bridal shower - since many family member's will be at the shower. I would let them know what you would like and hopefully they'll do it that way.
unicorn1178
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Don't worry.. If you know that your MOH has your best interests at heart, then tell the other BM's to back off and listen to her, and thats the way you want it!!
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Posted by AnniesSS
IMHO, strippers are for the bachlorette party and not the bridal shower - since many family member's will be at the shower. I would let them know what you would like and hopefully they'll do it that way.
I totally agree!
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you need to be honest and tell them exactly what you want. i would save the craziness for the bachelorette party. A lot of people dont want to see strippers, its kinda of tacky to have one at the shower. Good luck..
hmm8191
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Stripper for your shower? Like with you Mom and FMIL and grandma's. Yikes.
Keep the stripper for the bachelorette party!
SomethingBlu
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Stripper for your shower? Like with you Mom and FMIL and grandma's. Yikes.
Keep the stripper for the bachelorette party!
Ditto! I went to a shower with strippers and was soooo uncomfortable...that's not what I want grandma to see!
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People have strippers at a shower? OMG?! I have never heard of this.
If this is what you want, then great. I guess the question is about how to have them get along.
There is only one way to communicate the mesage that you want them to get along: COMMUNICATE! Sit them down, tell them what you want. Ask them to respect your wishes. Without talking to them about your feelings, no one will care and they will continue arguing. If they are good friends, as you say, they should be able to compromise out of respect for your feelings.
Good Luck!
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Ooopsie! Sorry if I was not clear. They don't want the stripper at the shower. They want to do a separate party and have the stripper. Only thing is, if they do the separate party, they said they can't contribute to both. It would be to costly. I don't want my MH to have to eat the shower bill by herself.
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Ahh, if I am correct then you are saying you have a choice between either a shower or a batchelorette party? If it were me, I would rather have the shower and no batchelorette party. I don't think it is fair to let your other bridesmaid's pawn off their financial commitment onto your MOH. Also, I would not do a stripper at a shower.
hmm8191
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Huh? That's ridiculous! How much can a stripper cost? If they can't do a shower and a bachelorette party why did they say yes to being a bridesmaid? I mean aren't those things a given? You have to (well not really...but) have a shower!
