FH is not fond of my borther at all. My brother treats me badly at times and always putting me down but he is my brother and I look pass that. FH can't and refuses to put him in the BP. I a tried to explain that it looks bad if you don't and he doesn't care.
i am sitting here in tears
UPDATED: I nagged the sh*t out of him and got my way; not the best way but I am happy now
PHEW, I was about to call in the guards(his father)
Thanks ladies
SoonToBeMrsCali
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you don't have to put your brother in the BP... I didn't put my brother because my FH and him are not the closest of buddies (we live 3K miles apart)...
Let him pick who he wants for his BP and you for yours.... They should be friends of both of yours though!
dianeb888
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That's a hard situation.. you should explain to FH how important it is for you to have your brother in the wedding party.
Hope it works out
jgold910
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He has to suck it up for the day - and then move on....he doesn't have to partake in anything....maybe FH should put everything on the table with your brother and be honest since he's gonna be his BIL for the rest of his life =- you can't live like this - a GM is for 6 hours - a BIL is for life!
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A friend of mine who got married, her now DH and his brother aren't close at all. They ended up NOT having him in the wedding, not b/c my friend didnt want him but b/c that was her husbands decision.
No one was really surprised but I see your POV.
What if you give your bro another job - reader or something. To try and find a way to meet in the middle - i see your point (as his sister) and i see FH's point (b/c he loves you).
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Posted by SoonToBeMrsCali
you don't have to put your brother in the BP... I didn't put my brother because my FH and him are not the closest of buddies (we live 3K miles apart)...
Let him pick who he wants for his BP and you for yours.... They should be friends of both of yours though!
I agree. Don't feel that you have to put your brother in the wedding. My brother is not in our wedding party and I am extremely close with him (same goes for my SIL who I feel is like a sister to me).
Why not ask your brother to do a reading at the ceremony so he's still included in the actual wedding?
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Ugh this is a hard situation
I don't really like my FSIL, but out of respect I put her as a bridesmaid because i don't want my FH to be upset that I didn't want her.
I really think you should try and talk with your FH about how you truly feel.
Good Luck!
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we aren't have any reading (not that I know of; havent contact the rabbi yet) and my brother has said to be numerous time can't wait to be in the BP.
Just so stressful
can it be the day after my wedding now?!?
Kuklitsa143
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Posted by Mommy2BeBride
Ugh this is a hard situation
I don't really like my FSIL, but out of respect I put her as a bridesmaid because i don't want my FH to be upset that I didn't want her.
I really think you should try and talk with your FH about how you truly feel.
Good Luck!
Christina please dont quote to your brother about my post since they are friends TIA
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Posted by jgold910
He has to suck it up for the day - and then move on....he doesn't have to partake in anything....maybe FH should put everything on the table with your brother and be honest since he's gonna be his BIL for the rest of his life =- you can't live like this - a GM is for 6 hours - a BIL is for life!
ITA with this
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If u want him in it ur fh has to suck it up for 1 day if it means that much to u he will hopefully give in..but if ur bro mistreats u I can understand why he doesnt want him in either..u don't have to put him in..I hope it works out
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I don't think it's necessary for him to put him in the bridal party. My brother isn't one of the groomsmen. We are having him to a reading instead.
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I wouldnt worry too much. I made my FSIL a BM but my FH was like, you know I wouldn't have cared if she wasnt in the wedding.
Guys are different that way....
Kuklitsa143
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my brothers are not in the bridal party because they are not close with FH, they live in CT and its just not the same relatioship. He said that he would rather have all his friends that he is close with then two guys that he doesnt really know. I can understand that and just because you are family doesnt give you a free ride for a BP position.
