What do u do when........

What do u do when........

friends of yours but not close enough that you weren't gonna originally invite, invites themselves. I bowl in a league and i have a few friends from there, more like acquantices (spelling ?) that i only see at the bowling alley basically assumed they were invited. well, last week and again last night this one guy is saying on how much fun my wedding is going to be. and i keep saying to myself, um, i wasn't inviting you. this has happened to me a few times already with a few different people. now i feel obligated to invite them. i doubt i'm alone, or am i.

what do i do?

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Boy, that's a tough one, I'd feel so uncomfortable too. Explain to them that while you would love for them to attend, you and your FH were calculating your budget and with the expense of weddings you had to cut the guest list a lot, or that you are having a smaller wedding than you anticipated. Make it seem like you intended on inviting them (without actually saying that), but then you ending up going with a much smaller wedding.

Easier said then done, but if you can't afford to invite them, you just can't afford it. Hopefully they will understand. Sticky and sensitive situation!

ETA: Also, try and keep the wedding talk around them to a minimum, if you can.

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you can just tell them you are having a small wedding and are only inviting family memebers

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you could always have a 'b' list if you get no's???

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I think the telling there's only close family only is the best way to go

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You can't invite every single person who just assumes that they're invited - your guest list would be out of control. Tell them that while it would be fun to have them there that you're keeping it very small - family and extremely close friends.

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the next time he says something you could say well we have not even gotten to the guest list yet, but I know that DF and I both have big families and we are limited on space and size of the room, so we shall see.

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thanks for the help ladies. good thing i still have time on this.

i like the idea of sending out some invites early and whatever no's i get maybe i can squeeze them in. my FI has family in Georgia that probably won't come so we shall see. but till then, i'll take the advise and keep the wedding talk out of the bowling alley.

thanks again ladies.