some of you may have seen my post on thursday about my friend who has been married 10 months and her DH wants to break up .Well one of his reason is that he just cant live with her. They never lived together before thee wedding. I keep saying there has to be more than just the fact that they cant live together. To me if you love someone and want it to work you will either overlook some annoying habits or go for help. I truly belive that this is a cover for some underlying reason.Any opinions. Feel free to disagree with me b/c so far everyoe i speak to has LOL?
Sweetie2004
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I think there has to be another reason - I would have bought that if he said it before the wedding, but now that they are married, it doesn't seem like he is going the extra mile to make it work - I hate to ask the obvious question, but - could there be another woman?
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I can't see how you can end a marriage over some annoying habits! Why don't they talk and compromise? Compromise is one of the keys to any successful marriage. Do they talk to each other?
Me and DH didn't live together before and we learned to live with the annoying habits. Usually you do that when you are in love.
04Bride
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as far as i know no other woman
nov04LIbride
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What specific reasons did he give? Someone stealing the covers definitely isn't a reason to end the marriage. IMO if you were with the person for a while before getting married, even without living together you would know the personality and quirks and not much would come as a surprise living together. We didn't live together before marriage, and I can't say the first couple months were easy, but definitely nothing worth throwing in the towel over. Maybe married life just isn't what he expected...I do think some people are too selfish to be happy when married. If he is used to living by himself, only being responsible for himself, this might be quite an adjustment.
ETA: One of the greatest reason for divorce is differences over money matters--did they argue about spending/saving, etc?
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Do i think it is possible..yes. We moved in together a little over 2 years before we got married and it was a BIG adjustment to me. I had lived with friends before and was fine but for some reason living with my DH was a HUGE adjustment for me. But people HAVE TO HAVE patience with each other..You have to learn to compromise (as Moehick) said) and communicate...
But although i believe it isn't alway easy to adjust...I can't imagine it is a marraige breaker...I would have to think something else is going on
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...I would have to think something else is going on
i agree 100% hopefully he tells her what it is soon
june262004
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My DH and I never lived together before the wedding. He is a little bit of a slob and i snore Nothing to get divorced over though that seams a little strange.
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I dont know! I would say it has to be another woman because believe me Dh and I have our flaws and sometimes we have our fights on somethings but we still stick out no matter what and we didn't either live with each other before we got married yes I stayed over at his apartment on the weekend but that was it. maybe he just really wasn't ready for marriage and he just wants to be single I feel bad for your friend i hope thinks work out. maybe they can go to couseling for help to work through this and stay together.
