OK, I'm not normally a confident person, but these days I feel really, really shaken. A few bad things happened over the past two weeks -- a close friend passed away, and I had some problems at my new job. Now I feel like I can't get up and face the day. It isn't depression exactly; it's more like intense anxiety.
What do you do when you feel so anxious that you just want to hide in bed all day? What do you do when you lose any sense of confidence you normally have? Any and all advice welcome and appreciated...
september2004
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think back to a time you felt like this before and how you feel about that instance now. as much as i hate to hear it from mom 'this too shall pass'...
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Posted by september2004
think back to a time you felt like this before and how you feel about that instance now. as much as i hate to hear it from mom 'this too shall pass'...
LOL my Mom says that all the time. It also helped me with things in the past. It really is the perfect saying. (dont tell my Mom I said that
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i think ahead of what i need to do and where i want to be. Seeing postive things (such as an influence, role model) can bring your strength out. Your SO can also help you by standing by you and supporting you.
Just keep going forward. Its good to reflect from a difficult situation but its bad to dwell and focus everything on that difficult situation.
Anniegrl
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This is kind of dorky, but I sing the 'I Have Confidence' song from 'The Sound of Music' to myself (in my head )
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This is kind of dorky, but I sing the 'I Have Confidence' song from 'The Sound of Music' to myself (in my head )
oh my god - I do that too!!!! I thought I was the only dork that did that :)
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I try to do something I know I am good at, and get a feeling of satisfaction from, even if it is something silly, like doing laundry or cooking. It helps build me back up and keeps me busy and sometimes stops me from focusing on the negative stuff.
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I actually went through something vey similar. I went to see 10 doctors before they realized it was anxiety. But you know what really, really helped better than any medication?. Yoga and meditation. I usually thought of it as crap, but it really worked for me. I took out some books from the library and taught myself how to mediate (my chant is 'this too shall pass' as well) and I also bought some Yoga DVDs to do as well. I did it everynight when I got home from work and it really cleared my head adn I was able to keep going strong..Give it a try. It really does work. Good luck.
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I walk my dog and clean and try not to eat too much.
nov04LIbride
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I think of the day in terms of little pieces. I am not anxious, but lately I've been up so late doing homework that when I wake up at 6 for work all I can think about is going back to sleep. So when I get up I think I just need to shower and get ready. Then, I just need to get to work. Then, just get to lunch time. Taking it bit by bit helps. Going to the gym also helps me, as much as I hate it. I never feel like I have the energy, but when I get there it makes me feel better.
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Well, I usually drink but thats a bad idea.
I agree with yoga, meditation, and working out. It may seem funny at firs tif your not into it, but you will benefit.
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My first reaction is to hide in my room away from everyone.
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sweetadeline
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You are all wonderful... thank you so much for listening and offering advice! Today I spent a lot of time singing 'Ain't No Mountain High Enough' (well, OK, singing in my head) and I did get through the day. Still feeling raw, and there were a few rough patches, but I kept your ideas and well wishes in my head. You've really brightened my day. Thank you again!
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I have no good advice, because I would keep on the sweats, forget about showering and just stay in bed
