that you haven't spoken to in awhile that ask 'Can I come' or 'we're invited right'? I find myself speechless....like 'WHAT'? you just invited yourself to my wedding? Does this happen to a lot of you...if so...how do you handle it?
i tell them that i'm having a small wedding cos we're on a budget.. i think people are just trying their luck.. sorry but im not inviting everyone i've ever known.. sheesh [lol but we're already up to 250]
IM sorry but we are already over our limit for the room that we are in I would love to but I just cant
I would just tell them it is a small wedding - just family - that your on a budget - if they havent been around for a long time- chances are they wont be around when the wedding comes around - no need to stress about that - theres enough going on with the weddingplanning that is stressful enough
I explained to people that we were having a small wedding and that space was limited and we had reached our max for the hall.
I feel your pain- I have had this happen so many times since I got engaged, I never realized how rude people are!
I would say that we are trying our best to include everyone...but the budget and the size of the room wont allow us to invite everyone we know...
Posted by autumnbride10
that you haven't spoken to in awhile that ask 'Can I come' or 'we're invited right'? I find myself speechless....like 'WHAT'? you just invited yourself to my wedding? Does this happen to a lot of you...if so...how do you handle it?
I usually just laugh and say well FH has a really big family.....we're not even inviting all of his first cousins! and my dad's italian and wants to invite all of his! (all true, but usually ppl take the hint!)
So far I have been lucky and only people who I am inviting said these sort of things...
I tell them my mom is keeping us on a tight budget and that we're barely even allowed to invite friends, which is totally true.
I've had that said to me before too and I've said that I have a big family (which I do) and we're at our limit that I had to cut out some of my own family already.
Yes all the time. I just say we are just doing family adn close friends (depends on how I know them), we are on a tight budget sorry, or the place is really small so we are limited on who we invite.
Posted by jaep129
Yes all the time. I just say we are just doing family adn close friends (depends on how I know them), we are on a tight budget sorry, or the place is really small so we are limited on who we invite.
I have to say a lot of people has came to me or my FH asking us if they are on the list, should they start looking for an outfit, if we had their address, and the best is when they ask if they can bring a group with them. We let the people who aren't invited and totally invites themselves that we are on a budget and on a set head count. Remember, there's always someone going to talk crap but you just have to brush any negativity away. If you have a set budget, stick with it.
I just tell them that our room only holds 80 max, and between family and our closest friends we are already there. Then I offer to meet them for a celebratory drink after work 'one day.' The 'one day' usually never gets scheduled, because they probably don't want to have to buy me a drink!
i just told people that we were inviting mostly family and VERY close friends. if you haven't spoken to them in a while, they know you're not that close. you know?
