What do you girls think-Rehersal Dinner (LONG)
What do you girls think?
My mother passed away about 6 years ago. My father remarried about 3 years ago, when I was 29 years old. His new wife has 4 children and they are all older then I am (some married with children other not)
Anyway, I was talking with my father and was discussing the Rehersal Dinner. There is an Irish bar/restaurant in Port Washington call Finn McCool where we are thinking of having RD. FI and I were thinking about 30 people.
I know it is traditional that the Grooms family pays for RD, but he is originally from Ireland and infact that is where his mother and family still live. He is the only one in his family that live in US. So needless to say we are going to pay for RD, which I completely understand..I'm just glad his family is coming to the wedding (that is a great expense).
My dilemma...I dont want to invite my 'stepbrothers and sisters'. I just want MY immediate family(I have two brother) and FI's immediate family. I dont want to have to explain who everyone is, especially since his family will never meet her kids again. Joan (Step-mother) has been very nice and has done much of the shopping and stuff with me for this wedding, but as my brother says 'we dont have to be the Brady Bunch'. I have only known these people for about 3-4 years and to tell you the truth I only really like two of her kids. The other two I couldn't care less if they didnt come to the wedding.
I'm just getting tired of always having to include these people in family stuff and to me they are not really my family, but people I have to deal with around the holidays. To me my family includes my dad and his wife, my two brother, my sister-in-law and niece and nephew. I dont even really want them in my wedding pictures, but I suppose I need to have one picture with them. Sorry to rant....
What do you all think??? My fathers solution to all this is that he will pay for the RD, but that isn't the point. I want it to be small and immediate family and Bridal party, that's it!
My mother passed away about 6 years ago. My father remarried about 3 years ago, when I was 29 years old. His new wife has 4 children and they are all older then I am (some married with children other not)
Anyway, I was talking with my father and was discussing the Rehersal Dinner. There is an Irish bar/restaurant in Port Washington call Finn McCool where we are thinking of having RD. FI and I were thinking about 30 people.
I know it is traditional that the Grooms family pays for RD, but he is originally from Ireland and infact that is where his mother and family still live. He is the only one in his family that live in US. So needless to say we are going to pay for RD, which I completely understand..I'm just glad his family is coming to the wedding (that is a great expense).
My dilemma...I dont want to invite my 'stepbrothers and sisters'. I just want MY immediate family(I have two brother) and FI's immediate family. I dont want to have to explain who everyone is, especially since his family will never meet her kids again. Joan (Step-mother) has been very nice and has done much of the shopping and stuff with me for this wedding, but as my brother says 'we dont have to be the Brady Bunch'. I have only known these people for about 3-4 years and to tell you the truth I only really like two of her kids. The other two I couldn't care less if they didnt come to the wedding.
I'm just getting tired of always having to include these people in family stuff and to me they are not really my family, but people I have to deal with around the holidays. To me my family includes my dad and his wife, my two brother, my sister-in-law and niece and nephew. I dont even really want them in my wedding pictures, but I suppose I need to have one picture with them. Sorry to rant....
What do you all think??? My fathers solution to all this is that he will pay for the RD, but that isn't the point. I want it to be small and immediate family and Bridal party, that's it!
