So I get a call from my fh the other day - he found out that his cousin (1st cousin) may be moving up her wedding date
Ok - back drop to allll of this:
We are getting married June 20, 2008 - was engaged & had date picked by December. His cousin got engaged in January & had date picked soon after for January 2008.
Sooo, she was thinking about moving it to Memorial Day weekend - which would be about 3 weeks before OUR wedding! Well, needless to say, my fh was pissssssssssssed. He called her up and just told her how he felt & she said 'fine, but I dont agree - but I wont change the date then'
Honestly, I didnt even get mad b/c I do not think it was done in a mallicious or mean way - but I do think it was veryyyy inconsiderate...and I find it even more strange that she saw nothing wrong w/ it!!!!!
I mean, not only is it rude to us - but it also puts a lot of pressure on the rest of the family, as far as $
WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINk?
cherish83
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I think it is more inconsiderate to the family rather than you guys. I mean it is ridiculous that they dont see how it will affect you, but it is a lot to ask the family to handle all at once. My cousin got engaged after us and was concerned about having her wedding in July while ours is in November, but i told her I was fine with it. The way i see it, at least she showed concern for my feelings. I dont see how they see it as an issue for you and your family
Hscally
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wow thats really messed up
jteach711
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Same exact thing happened to me. I had my wedding booked by the 1st week of January
One of my oldest friends Mike got engaged in March and planned a June 09 wedding
Found out last week that he moved it to exactly 3 weeks before mine
I told him I was a little upset thay he had disreguarded my wedding and that I was probably going to have my bachelorette party that weekend.
his fiance thought I was being a b#%# for saying something
Well I think she is a b#^%& for puttting her wedding so close to mine
Oh well, theres nothing really you can do about it so I just told him that I would get over it
Miblove
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It boggles me that ppl really do NOT see anything wrong w/ this!!!!!!!!
kellybean
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People are very inconsiderate ...I dont think they realize the pressue and strain that this can cause
jteach711
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I have a friend getting married this Friday and she keeps telling me that the few weeks before are so stressful and there are so many appts. and things that have to be done
who wants to worry about another wedding during all of that
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I don't think you're wrong if you feel that it was inconsiderate. I was in a similar position where my uncle (who's very close in age to me)got engaged before us and set the date for 7/7/07, so when FH and I set a date we put it for the next year just so there wouldn't be stress on us and also our family. It's just common sense and courtesy!!
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It's inconsiderate! A few weeks before your wedding, you're going to be running around like crazy trying to get stuff done - do you really want to attend another wedding in the midst of that? And also for family - they have to attend 2 weddings in less than a month, pay for 2 gifts, travel to 2 places, etc.
Miblove
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THANKS guys
love2plan1
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It is very inconsiderate to your family. My cousin is doing one month before me. Act like it doesn't phase you, your day will still be wonderful
Jackie012100
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It probably wasn't done with any cruel intention. But I do agree that it is definately inconsiderate to you and your FH and his family. She should have thought of that before she booked her date.
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My friend (a BM) was getting married Sept 8th and then about 5 months before her wedding, our other friend planned her wedding for 9/23 (another BM). My 9/8 friend didn't care too much b/c 9/23 was after her wedding, but the 9/23 girl chose the SAME wedding song as her! (meanwhile we ALL KNEW 9/8's wedding some from when they got engaged) Needless to say, we are all still good friends, but some people have no cooth...lol (sp?)
It definitely was hard for me (a guest) to have to shell out for 2 weddings in a month.
FH and I always wanted an October wedding, but pushed ours back 6 months to April 08 b/c his cousin is getting married this Oct. --You just don't do that. (we didn't want to wait till Oct 08)
