What do you think of this.....

I dont think there is anything wrong with it.

FH's parents have a 2 bedroom apt upstairs in their house. Seperate enterance and deck and they are actually re-doing alot of it such as the bathroom, painting, carpeting. So we plan on living there until we can afford a condo or hopefully a house. Which will prob be a year or two after we get married in Dec 2008. But it is rent free and we are thankful for that since it will help us to save for a house quicker.

But I hope they are getting married for the right reasons! Maybe talk to your FBIL and ask him why they want to rush into getting married will it help with something= does his gf have a good job with good benefits since he doesnt have a job!!?? Maybe that is why they are thinking about this.

I could understand a separate entrance and all that into the house but it's not. RIght now he's in one room and she's in the other room.
She doesn't have a job that can support them both. And the only reason why they would get married at the end of the year is bc she's giving him sh*t for going out for 8yrs and they should be married. I don't know why the rush for a piece of paper. I think they should do it the right way. They might regret it.

i just think he should get a job - how did he manage to keep a g/f without having a job? and how are they getting engaged? where does he get money???


we live in the apartment downstairs from FH's parents - we still pay rent though - they need the income to help pay their mortgage but since they want us to be able to save a little they lowered the rent - its $200 less than we were paying in our original apartment.....so it helps! especially since we are paying a mortgage on our property in florida

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i just think he should get a job - how did he manage to keep a g/f without having a job? and how are they getting engaged? where does he get money???


we live in the apartment downstairs from FH's parents - we still pay rent though - they need the income to help pay their mortgage but since they want us to be able to save a little they lowered the rent - its $200 less than we were paying in our original apartment.....so it helps! especially since we are paying a mortgage on our property in florida

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He had a decent amount of money saved while he was working and used the majority of his savings for a ring(which he spent 7k more than he wanted to) and on bills. He's been out of work for a year and a half. They're getting engaged at the end of November.

My FH is against it mainly bc of the job situation. She's the only one saving money and she has crazy bills too.

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Posted by JnD110808

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i just think he should get a job - how did he manage to keep a g/f without having a job? and how are they getting engaged? where does he get money???


we live in the apartment downstairs from FH's parents - we still pay rent though - they need the income to help pay their mortgage but since they want us to be able to save a little they lowered the rent - its $200 less than we were paying in our original apartment.....so it helps! especially since we are paying a mortgage on our property in florida

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He had a decent amount of money saved while he was working and used the majority of his savings for a ring(which he spent 7k more than he wanted to) and on bills. He's been out of work for a year and a half. They're getting engaged at the end of November.

My FH is against it mainly bc of the job situation. She's the only one saving money and she has crazy bills too.

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i dont know if this is too personal...but why doesnt he have ajob after a year and a 1/2? I would be going crazy. But did he have an injury or something that kept him out? I think they should think everything through before going ahead and getting married. I think finances are very important in their situation

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Posted by cbcf

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Posted by JnD110808

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i just think he should get a job - how did he manage to keep a g/f without having a job? and how are they getting engaged? where does he get money???


we live in the apartment downstairs from FH's parents - we still pay rent though - they need the income to help pay their mortgage but since they want us to be able to save a little they lowered the rent - its $200 less than we were paying in our original apartment.....so it helps! especially since we are paying a mortgage on our property in florida

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He had a decent amount of money saved while he was working and used the majority of his savings for a ring(which he spent 7k more than he wanted to) and on bills. He's been out of work for a year and a half. They're getting engaged at the end of November.

My FH is against it mainly bc of the job situation. She's the only one saving money and she has crazy bills too.

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i dont know if this is too personal...but why doesnt he have ajob after a year and a 1/2? I would be going crazy. But did he have an injury or something that kept him out? I think they should think everything through before going ahead and getting married. I think finances are very important in their situation

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I know I agree with it. He wants to get into the banking field and his thinking was since i'm home I might as well wait to see if I can get a job in this field. He only has a 2yr degree and you need a 4yr degree and he refuses to go back to school. He is just starting to know realize that its a lost cause. But he's just so content being home. He goes to the gym and runs errands. I'd be going OUT OF MY MIND!

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i just think he should get a job - how did he manage to keep a g/f without having a job? and how are they getting engaged? where does he get money???


we live in the apartment downstairs from FH's parents - we still pay rent though - they need the income to help pay their mortgage but since they want us to be able to save a little they lowered the rent - its $200 less than we were paying in our original apartment.....so it helps! especially since we are paying a mortgage on our property in florida

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ditto