What do you think of this

Future Mrs H Posted: Sep 02, 2010 08:18 AM

What do you think of this

We have come to terms with the fact that FMIL will not be at our wedding. So we have decided right after the BP and my parents are introduced and before our first dance we want the dj to say 'The bride and groom asks everyone to bow their heads and say a silent prayer for the grooms mother L. H.'

We want to acknowledge her and we think prayer would be a good way of doing this.

Thoughts???

miamimerger Posted: Sep 02, 2010 08:25 AM

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I feel like I missed a lot of your posts . Is your FMIL sick? If so, I think that might be a great thing to do at the ceremony, not the reception. If she's not sick and just not coming, the prayer seems a little forced. It depends on the situation though!

Future Mrs H Posted: Sep 02, 2010 08:27 AM

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Posted by miamimerger

I feel like I missed a lot of your posts . Is your FMIL sick? If so, I think that might be a great thing to do at the ceremony, not the reception. If she's not sick and just not coming, the prayer seems a little forced. It depends on the situation though!

She is very sick- she has been in and out of the hospital and nursing homes since Aug 14. We were hoping that she will be better by the wedding- but its just not going to happen

Future Mrs H Posted: Sep 02, 2010 08:28 AM

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The thing is Jerry wants to acknowledge her at the reception also even though she wont be there.

SummerBride10 Posted: Sep 02, 2010 08:28 AM

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I think thats a great idea to acknowledge her.

JC297 Posted: Sep 02, 2010 08:48 AM

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If it were me, I wouldnt. I would try to think of another way to acknowledge her. Only because the prayer might set an odd tone for the wedding.

But ultimately, you need to do whats right for you and Jerry. Hope his mom is doing better. Maybe after the wedding you guys can go visit her all dressed up.

Future Mrs H Posted: Sep 02, 2010 08:52 AM

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Posted by Sora777
Maybe after the wedding you guys can go visit her all dressed up.

We are planning on doing that. We are also want to bring her a piece of cake too!

FutureMrsSoltan Posted: Sep 02, 2010 08:54 AM

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I think its a great idea. If it were my mom who was sick I know it would mean alot to just have a little moment just for her because she couldnt be there.

hope she is doing better

Rosalind_75 Posted: Sep 02, 2010 10:29 AM

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i think this is something you should do at the ceremony.

jmo

GR2010 Posted: Sep 02, 2010 10:31 AM

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I think that is the perfect time to do it if you're going to do it at the reception!

elp6421 Posted: Sep 02, 2010 10:31 AM

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I agree - I think this would be better suited for the ceremony.

joctorre Posted: Sep 02, 2010 10:35 AM

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Aww, I love the idea. The first thing I thought of though is that a moment of silence is usually to honor someone who has passed. So I had to reread your post. You'd have to make sure that your dj says something so that everyone is not confused and upset.

Other than that, I agree that it's a great idea and she gets her own 'entrance' that way, too!!!