What is the etiquette? If you invite them to the party...

fancyface1955 Posted: Jan 20, 2009 09:27 PM

What is the etiquette? If you invite them to the party...

Hi Gals,

So I've heard the rule that if you should only invite people to the shower that you plan on inviting to the wedding. But what about the Bachelorette party? I want to invite some co-workers to that, but not to the wedding. I don't want to be rude or come off like i'm looking for gifts. So what is the etiquette here??

coldasice217 Posted: Jan 20, 2009 09:28 PM

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I would keep all pre-wedding festivities to just people who are invited to the wedding...otherwise it may be looked at in poor taste.

KittyGags Posted: Jan 20, 2009 09:28 PM

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Posted by fancyface1955

Hi Gals,

So I've heard the rule that if you should only invite people to the shower that you plan on inviting to the wedding. But what about the Bachelorette party? I want to invite some co-workers to that, but not to the wedding. I don't want to be rude or come off like i'm looking for gifts. So what is the etiquette here??

I think the rules the same? JMO!

Utterhappiness Posted: Jan 20, 2009 09:31 PM

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Yeah sorry, but I think that I have to agree with the girls above...You really should not invite people to your bach party if they are not invited to the wedding. I mean how would you feel if you went to a girls bach party and had a great time with her and her friends... then they start BSin about the wedding and stuff while you are sitting there with nothing to say...

Its not cool JMO

kristentinnelly Posted: Jan 20, 2009 09:34 PM

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Posted by coldasice217

I would keep all pre-wedding festivities to just people who are invited to the wedding...otherwise it may be looked at in poor taste.

I agree

gina409 Posted: Jan 20, 2009 09:34 PM

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i have to agree with the other girls..but if they offer to take u out knowing they r not invited to the wedding..then thats diffrent

GT143EA Posted: Jan 20, 2009 09:35 PM

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Posted by coldasice217

I would keep all pre-wedding festivities to just people who are invited to the wedding...otherwise it may be looked at in poor taste.

ITA!

dana1206 Posted: Jan 20, 2009 09:54 PM

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I agree too, unless it's like a friend of a friend or something like that you know but wouldn't be expecting to come to the wedding. I always thought it was weird that guys would go on Bachelor Party weekends, but then not get invited to the wedding. Guys are weird though!

Celeste617 Posted: Jan 20, 2009 10:53 PM

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I'm sticking to the wedding invitees, however, I have been to a bachelorette party of a girl that wasn't able to invite everyone that she wanted. Didn't phase me. As long as the person knows the deal then I think it's fine.

vnv126 Posted: Jan 20, 2009 11:05 PM

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I agree with the above posts. I am only inviting those to my bridal shower, bachelorette party to my wedding. I feel like if I invite them to the other two and not inviting them to my wedding is offensive!

fancyface1955 Posted: Jan 20, 2009 11:27 PM

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Posted by dana1206

I agree too, unless it's like a friend of a friend or something like that you know but wouldn't be expecting to come to the wedding. I always thought it was weird that guys would go on Bachelor Party weekends, but then not get invited to the wedding. Guys are weird though!

That is so true!! when FH and I were first dating he got invited to a bachelor party weekend in ocean city. it was for his friend's, friend's brother. He didn't know the groom and wasn't goin to the wedding. But it was a weekend of totally nude strippers and liquor!! what guy would say no to that??

dutchessev Posted: Jan 20, 2009 11:51 PM

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Posted by coldasice217

I would keep all pre-wedding festivities to just people who are invited to the wedding...otherwise it may be looked at in poor taste.

Completely Agree

debzy Posted: Jan 21, 2009 10:04 AM

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Posted by kristentinnelly

Posted by coldasice217

I would keep all pre-wedding festivities to just people who are invited to the wedding...otherwise it may be looked at in poor taste.

I agree

Yup.