What is wrong with me???

Okay, so I thought - after I get my dress I will get serious about losing weight. Then as I was approaching 6 months to my wedding date - that would definitely be when I would get on the ball.

Now I am approaching 5 months and I have done nothing! I read a post awhile ago about what recently married girls regretted most about their day and 90% of the responses were the girls saying they wished they had gotten in better shape/lost more weight.

What else do I need to finally get seriuos? I mean - what the heck! I don't even have a lot to lose. I would be happy with 10 lbs and be skinnier than I've ever been losing 15 lbs. Plus we are HMing in Hawaii - so I'll be in bathing suits a lot.

If I lose just 2 - 3 lbs per month I will look great and yet I can't seem to be motivated for more than a day.

What is wrong with me?

Don't beat yourself up! It's hard to change, especially when it comes to diet and exercising because it all seems so overwhelming when you first look at it. Start by making small changes in your diet, adding a new change every few days/once a week (i.e. drinking only water vs. sodas, eat whole wheat products instead of white flour, eat slowly and stop eating when you're full, etc). Exercising will be much easier, especially now that it's starting to get warmer out. You can go on walks or jog outside a few days a week and slowly build on them.

No time like the present to start! Good luck!

You are not the only one! I promissed myself on the 1 year from my wedding date that I would start the workout/diet... then it was 10 months... then 6 months.. just passed the 5 months... obviously if my wedding can't motivate me... nothing can!!

There is nothing wrong with you - I felt like I worked out less right before the wedding because I was always so overwhelmed. You work, commute, plan the wedding, in many cases, move into a new place, get adjusted to a new home/town - so many changes all at once can leave you feeling paralyzed!

Try to draw up a schedule for yourself to include workouts - you'll feel less stressed if you work in exercise time and stick to it. Treat it like an appointment for your wedding (i.e.. meeting with your florist, photographer, etc.)

Welcome to my world. I'm the same exact way. Even if I want to go to the gym half the time something pops up and I can't go. And forget about eating well. Once the afternnon hits I lose willpower. Now I have a little over 5 months until the wedding and still need to lose at least 15 lbs . It doesn't even seem like a lot but I just can't seem to stick to eating healthy and going to the gym.

I find that not having alot to lose- makes it harder

to help me- right before my wedding I got a trainer- I was forced to got 2 days a week

I still didn't go as often as I would have liked- but it's hard when you have a million things to do

if you only need to lose 10lbs- what not make little changes that you can handle

figure out what it is that is keeping you 10lbs over what you want to be- for me it's candy and snacks

if I cut those out - I drop the unwanted lbs right away-

try to work out 3 days a week instead of 5

or I read that most women say they are going to start a diet on monday- then monday comes and they mess up- so instead of trying again on tuesday- they wait until the next monday- if I eat bad at one meal- I try to fix it going forward that day

Well, I've been pretty good the last few days. I went to the gym twice this week so far and have been pretty good with my eating. I really think I am trying to sabotage myself for some unknown reason. But I am trying to stay focused and make small changes as many on this thread have suggested.

Thanks for the advice and encouragement!

The wedding is one thing - the honeymoon another!

I bought my dress at a sample sale - and it fits me to a T - aside from the length. So I don't have to lose weight to fit in my dress. (Heaven forbid I lose weight and have to actually have it taken in! LOL). And the dress is very flattering.

The honeymoon however is a different story. We were going to go to Italy - which would have meant wearing pants and such. But we changed our mind and now we are going to Hawaii - you know, the place you wear bathing suits!! I can't even stand the sight of myself in shorts let alone a bathing suit.

at least you still have time! i'm getting married in 25 days and I honestly think the stress has made me gain weight!!!! i've been working out with the weights just about every other day and cut out junk food and replaced it with oranges, cantaloupes and watermelons! and still i havent lost a pound! my seamstress said i cant lose weight because then my dress would require more work!

on top of that, i feel really badly because i have no willpower! i don't mind the fruits because those are 3 fruits i love! but if you gave me an option for dinner to have steak and potatoes or a salad and grilled veggies...i go with the steak and feel REALLY bad about it later! why cant i just eat healthy??? i have no idea but i feel like its slowly killing me mentally!!!!! i look in the mirror and just hate what i see, i seriously think there's something wrong with me!

I'm sorry you are going through this...I honestly believe that our bodies like to be at a certain weight. And have you seen the commercials for that new diet pill - they say stress makes us gain & retain weight - well I can't think of a more stressful time than 25 days before your wedding!

That said - at least you don't have to worry about fitting into your dress! That's comforting. I've read many posts where girls have to crash diet just to fit into their dresses - which must only add more stress.

I would take the steak over the salad anyday! You are not alone!

The thing is - if you are trying to lose weight for something external - an event like a wedding, because someone else wants you to, etc, then its temporary and you lack enough motivation to follow throug - even though you think you want to lose for your wedding, you don't have enough true motivation to change your lifestyle enough to follow through....

I dont mean to sound harsh and I feel for you - I've been there, plus I'm a behavior consultant so I deal wth behavior and motivation all the time...

you have to want to and come up with small goals that you know you can commit to - example - instead of 3 sodas, have 2 glasses of water and 1 soda.

Instead of eating ice cream every night for dinner, have a fruit cup with a dab of yogurt on top....

Don't think of changing EVERYTHING - change one thing until you have it down.... then it becomes a part of your reportior and routine, then make another change.... Only do what you know you can stick to and commit to - make it small enough to be easy!

you can do it!