What role do your parents play...

Munchkn16 Posted: Jan 01, 2007 07:00 PM

What role do your parents play...

in planning your wedding? Are you planning the bulk of it, is everything decided by consensus, or do you refer the bulk of the decision-making to them?

My parents are driving me a little crazy... they want to be uber-involved in every decision that's made. I want FH and I to do most of the planning. Help!

SoulMates422 Posted: Jan 01, 2007 07:28 PM

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My parents are just going to show up and at this point I like it that way.

tricia3381 Posted: Jan 01, 2007 07:35 PM

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My parents aren't involved. I have asked my dad to come with me to some vendor appointments and he has. FH's parents offer advice and ideas here there, but not overly involved.

donegal419 Posted: Jan 01, 2007 08:14 PM

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It's been me, FH and mom. Mom has been helpful with advice and thoughts, but has left the major decision up to me and FH,

kflan75 Posted: Jan 01, 2007 08:25 PM

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I relied alot on my mom for things because I planned from out of town.... but ultimately it came to us agreeing and disagreeing on things.... although my parents paid for it-- they knew they had to run things by me before making a decision... We talked ALOT about ideas and stuff, and when theyd get alittle ahead of themselves I let it go-- and geared them back into what I wanted... Most of the time it was just their excitement that drove me and DH crazy... but ultimately we did it our way...

miss nee Posted: Jan 01, 2007 08:34 PM

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THE ROLE OF BEING THERE AT 3PM... ME AND FH ARE HOLDING IT DOWN..AND LOVIN IT :

Soon2BeMrs Posted: Jan 01, 2007 08:35 PM

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my mom is a part of everything and i like it that way...im the only daughter and shes super excited so i enjoy doing things with her...even thought we disagree sometimes she knows its MY wedding and in the end it will be what I want

nifheim Posted: Jan 01, 2007 08:46 PM

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its kind funny i have a older brother and i am their only daughter. So far they really don't care about the wedding. So i glad but sad about it.

My mom said as her gift to me she will purchase my wedding gown/veil/shoes as long as i go to a consignment shop first to see if we can get a discount dress ( actually planned that ahead of time) and/or it will be under a certain price because she feels expensive wedding dresses is wasteful.

The only thing they are active about is me moving out. I understand i am burden adn too old to live at home still but given my problems earlier in life i think its understandable.

libby2595 Posted: Jan 01, 2007 09:40 PM

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dh and i paid for our wedding, so NO ONE else had a say in ANYTHING [period]

i have a friend who is getting married in may, her mom is driving her crazy. i feel for you guys, i would elope if my mother did that to me.

i hope you'll be able to find a happy-medium with your parents

Munchkn16 Posted: Jan 02, 2007 08:15 AM

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Any ideas on how I ask my parents to step back? We've had discussions before, but they either a) get offended or b) say thigs like 'I'm paying for it, I have a say.' But I'd be much less inclined to control everything ig they didn't push so hard.

Sorry for the vent, but I don't think anyone else I know would understand...

ziamaria Posted: Jan 02, 2007 08:50 AM

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my parents are paying for EVERYTHING but they really dont care about much. both mom & dad came to different halls to choose the hall, i wanted to scrimp but my dad said he wanted the viennese hour - so we added that. i wanted a friday ($$$) and he said its not nice for the guests so he changed it to Saturuday ($$$$$$$$$$)

for everything else, I booked by myself or w/fiance and they handed over the cash for deposits/payments - i've been lucky

angnick Posted: Jan 02, 2007 08:58 AM

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my mom and sisters had the biggest role. her and i did all the leg work and basically chose 3 types of one thing, then had dh pick from those..

we didnt make any major decisions without my parents and they didnt pay for the wedding, but paid for extras and stuff.

that is the way we are though.. we dont make major life decisions without parental influence.

eelharas4700 Posted: Jan 02, 2007 09:34 AM

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well i am doing just about everything with the planning and research. although there have been a few things i cannot do with out getting my moms opinion....dresses, favors, shoes....but for the most part they are just there when i need em! when it comes to the money of things, that's fh department-we're paying for it on our own.

GabrielleandJohn Posted: Jan 02, 2007 09:40 AM

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I am pretty much the only one making decisions on our wedding. FH isn't to involved and both sets of parents understand that we love them but this is our show.