What Should I Do??? (Inviting Boss)

j2911 Posted: May 23, 2007 11:10 AM

What Should I Do??? (Inviting Boss)

a little background: i work right under/for the president of a small company. it will be four years in oct. i cant stand working here but the money is good. i am starting my masters this summer so i need to keep this job.

anyway I DONT WANT TO INVITE MY BOSS. i dont want to see his face at my wedding. i know he would give me a very nice amount of money for my wedding gift but i would really rather not have him there than have the money. (even though i need it bad)... sometimes he's nice but most of the time he's just a jerk, like he'll call me in my office and tell me something and just hangs up and other really jerk things...
so the thought of me and fh being romantic and loving in front of him grosses me out.

do you think it would be awful of me not to invite him... i think he'd get over it... plus i want to finish my masters and be done with this place in two years!!!

TIA!!!!!

raspbrryswl Posted: May 23, 2007 11:12 AM

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Ummm I dont think you have to worry about it. Don't invite him, i am sure he will get over it. Don't feel bad. I am sure he would not invite you to any of his personal parties!

AS Posted: May 23, 2007 11:13 AM

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I dont want to invite my boss either and I will not be doing so

GinaZ Posted: May 23, 2007 11:19 AM

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are you inviting other people from the office?

Just make it like it is a small wedding and mostly just family and very very close friends.

SusiBtoM Posted: May 23, 2007 11:21 AM

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Are you inviting anyone else from your office ?
If not, then you can get away with not inviting the boss.

Personally I think you should invite your boss, as you pointed out that you work quite closely with him and for him. He may be a jerk at work, but politically it may be correct for you to invite him, especially since you plan on working there for a while. You never know if you may need something from him in the future (a referrence !) and you certainly do not want to offend him.

I am sending invitations to my two bosses. I work for a foreign company and it would be quite insulting to them and a major breach of etiquitte for me not issue an invitation to the boss. Most likely they will not attend, but if they do, that is fine with me.

thumper9878 Posted: May 23, 2007 11:23 AM

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Well if you do not want to invite him, just tell people at work that you are not inviting anyone from work and if you are to have them keep it a hush, hush.

good luck

diva7531 Posted: May 23, 2007 11:23 AM

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Are you inviting anyone else from work?

cindyandkevin Posted: May 23, 2007 11:33 AM

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I don't see any reason why you should have to invite your boss. Your personal life has nothing to do with your professional life.

LB and DC Posted: May 23, 2007 11:35 AM

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are you friends with him? are you related to him?

if no, don't invite him!!

those are the only people on my guest list!!

j2911 Posted: May 23, 2007 11:49 AM

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Posted by SusiBtoM

Are you inviting anyone else from your office ?
If not, then you can get away with not inviting the boss.

Personally I think you should invite your boss, as you pointed out that you work quite closely with him and for him. He may be a jerk at work, but politically it may be correct for you to invite him, especially since you plan on working there for a while. You never know if you may need something from him in the future (a referrence !) and you certainly do not want to offend him.

I am sending invitations to my two bosses. I work for a foreign company and it would be quite insulting to them and a major breach of etiquitte for me not issue an invitation to the boss. Most likely they will not attend, but if they do, that is fine with me.

his daughter started working with me for a few months but couldnt stand him anymore so she stopped working in the office with me and is now doing something else that doesnt involve him...
so, i was going to invite her because i saw her everyday but now i dont see her anymore, so im not inviting anyone else from work then

this is also a foreign company...
i was just talking to my mom about it and she said I HAVE to invite him,, grrr. i knew she would say that...

FutureMrsFass Posted: May 23, 2007 11:53 AM

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I wouldn't if you don't want to. Make like you are having a small wedding and cannot afford to invite an elaborate amount of people. I know what it is like to want to leave your work AT WORK ! No working on your wedding day, or the thought of work, or the people you see DAY IN AND DAY OUT ! It is your day, do as you please !

SusiBtoM Posted: May 23, 2007 12:03 PM

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Listen to your mother. You don't know me, but I've been in the work force for 19 years since I graduated. You know the saying - never burn your bridges. Trust me I've seen the consquences.

I work for a Japanese company, so etiquitte is a major player in the workforce. Your boss may not even attend. If he does, seat him somewhear in the back, with other less favorite people. Greet him cordially, introduce your new husband, and then enjoy your other guests. If he acts like a jerk at your reception, then it is a bad reflection upon him, not on you !

EGreene79 Posted: May 23, 2007 12:26 PM

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Posted by cindyandkevin

I don't see any reason why you should have to invite your boss. Your personal life has nothing to do with your professional life.

I completely agree with this. My wedding isn't a social event - it's for friends and family to celebrate my marriage. I would be uncomfortable having coworkers there.

Flutterbye922 Posted: May 23, 2007 12:37 PM

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Do not invite him!!!! There is no reason to

My rule for inviting work people was - if I talk to them outside of work, I invited them.

Also - if he is that much of a jerk, he might not even want to be invited!

dante31300 Posted: May 23, 2007 12:40 PM

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Posted by SusiBtoM

Listen to your mother. You don't know me, but I've been in the work force for 19 years since I graduated. You know the saying - never burn your bridges. Trust me I've seen the consquences.

I work for a Japanese company, so etiquitte is a major player in the workforce. Your boss may not even attend. If he does, seat him somewhear in the back, with other less favorite people. Greet him cordially, introduce your new husband, and then enjoy your other guests. If he acts like a jerk at your reception, then it is a bad reflection upon him, not on you !

ITA, I would invite him if he is as much a jerk as you say he is he probably will decline the offer anyway. In addition I highly doubt you will have time to think about him on your wedding day, I think you will greet him if he comes and that will be the last time you think of him for the rest of the night. Listen to your mom.

thelastresort Posted: May 23, 2007 12:49 PM

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I'm in the same situation. I'm inviting him. He might not even come. It's better to chance it then burn your bridges. People can get really offended over things like that.