WHAT THE FRENCH TOAST?

The one lesson I've learned dealing with men is that they're not mind readers. They rarely intentionally try to piss us off, they just DO without thinking.

So if you haven't talked to him about what you want, he doesn't know he's doing something wrong. You have to talk to him and express your feelings in a non confrontational way.

Just say what you wrote about how you didn't feel ready before but now you'd like to take the next step would he consider finding a place together instead of moving in with his brother?

This would piss me off BIG TIME. If hes planning on marrying you, he should know that duuuhhh. moving in together first would be the more logical choice instead of his brother.

Sounds like he wants to extend his 'bachelor' lifestyle/pad as much as possible before tying the knot. I would sit his butt down and have a serious chat about what his expectations are with respect to living together. I've definitely have had major fights w/ former boyfriends on this issue and even broke a potential engagement off because once we started living together realized that were sooo incompatible that marrying each other would've been the biggest mistake of our lives.

Good luck!

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Posted by killertomato10

This would piss me off BIG TIME. If hes planning on marrying you, he should know that duuuhhh. moving in together first would be the more logical choice instead of his brother.

Sounds like he wants to extend his 'bachelor' lifestyle/pad as much as possible before tying the knot. I would sit his butt down and have a serious chat about what his expectations are with respect to living together. I've definitely have had major fights w/ former boyfriends on this issue and even broke a potential engagement off because once we started living together realized that were sooo incompatible that marrying each other would've been the biggest mistake of our lives.

Good luck!

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my sis said the same thing... im not having it !!!

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Posted by mybabylovesmoi

The one lesson I've learned dealing with men is that they're not mind readers. They rarely intentionally try to piss us off, they just DO without thinking.

So if you haven't talked to him about what you want, he doesn't know he's doing something wrong. You have to talk to him and express your feelings in a non confrontational way.

Just say what you wrote about how you didn't feel ready before but now you'd like to take the next step would he consider finding a place together instead of moving in with his brother?

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im very expressive.. he knows what time it is!!! lol

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Posted by HopelessRomantic

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Posted by mybabylovesmoi

The one lesson I've learned dealing with men is that they're not mind readers. They rarely intentionally try to piss us off, they just DO without thinking.

So if you haven't talked to him about what you want, he doesn't know he's doing something wrong. You have to talk to him and express your feelings in a non confrontational way.

Just say what you wrote about how you didn't feel ready before but now you'd like to take the next step would he consider finding a place together instead of moving in with his brother?

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im very expressive.. he knows what time it is!!! lol

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in your OP you said, 'I havent express how I feel because this just happen but should i?'

Men arent mind readers. tell him you are ready to move in and you want to do it now. Otherwise, how could he know?? Say exactly what you said on here. good luck

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Posted by jackieee

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Posted by HopelessRomantic

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Posted by mybabylovesmoi

The one lesson I've learned dealing with men is that they're not mind readers. They rarely intentionally try to piss us off, they just DO without thinking.

So if you haven't talked to him about what you want, he doesn't know he's doing something wrong. You have to talk to him and express your feelings in a non confrontational way.

Just say what you wrote about how you didn't feel ready before but now you'd like to take the next step would he consider finding a place together instead of moving in with his brother?

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im very expressive.. he knows what time it is!!! lol

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in your OP you said, 'I havent express how I feel because this just happen but should i?'

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that line is why I assumed he didn't know you were ready now. If you HAVE told him, that's another story.

I apologize for confusion.. i didnt express I was upset with moving with bro right away on the phone but just yesterday we were talking about it ... we talk about it all the time! thats why i said he knows that i am ready to move.. but you ladies are right! i cant assume he is minding my mind even though we talked about it yesterday i guess..

im so confused... we will talk about it later this week...