What to do...??

What to do...??

anybody ever get to the point where the bad just outweighs the good parts of planning a wedding? i'm sure i can't be the only one (or at least i hope not)... while my situation may be different than what a lot of other girls go through... my parents just simply are not excited about my wedding. no matter what i do, they don't even want to be in the videographer's interview. while some of this has to do with the fact that my parents business is hurting due to the economy... they just are totally taking it out on me and i don't know where to turn or what to do anymore. i'm just really hurt by the fact that while i thought my mom and dad would be the ones who'd be so excited, they are the least... about it all. sorry, guess i just need to vent, or have someone listen. my FH is awesome, he's so the best and i love him to pieces...he is mad FOR me. i know that 'i should be happy during this time in my life' ...that i should 'enjoy it!!'... it's more than difficult when your own parents don't celebrate your happiness...when they don't even ask how the planning's going... ... anybody relate?

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I can totally relate....there is a lot of tension between my family and FH's family...we can FM so as not to post too many details on such a public forum..lol.

It's 'supposed to be' the happiest times of our lives; but lately, it doesn't seem that way. And it makes moving forward with plans that much harder. It *****.....

FM if you want to vent/chat.

Hang in there...and try to think of the positives!

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thank you both so much for taking the time to say what you said. it totally picked me up. i def know there'll be ups and downs... but it's soooooooo nice to have this type of forum to vent, etc.

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Hang in there. Wedding planning is unfortunately stressful but will pay off in the end. I'm sure they will get more excited as time goes on. All of us here will be excited for you!

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it's not always as much fun as it's 'supposed to be', I can relate, can I please recommend the BEST book I've read in awhile! This book has completely helped me through any difficult times during my engagement. It's called 'The Conscious Bride' by Sheryl Paul. You can google it and check it out on Amazon. It's really helped me put things into perspective during the planning. This book helped me to feel that there are other ppl out there that I can relate to! Feel better

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Unfortunately a lot of brides (myself included) discover during wedding planning that not everyone is as happy for them as they are... I'm sorry it happens to be your parents though You don't mention (not that it's anyone's business!) whether they are helping you financially with the wedding. Perhaps your parents are worried that they can't help you pay for it? Have you tried to ask them what's going on for them or why they wont' do the videographer's interview and how much it hurt you...I would try to talk to them in an honest and respectful way about it, maybe they don't know or understand.

The bottom line is that you are marrying the love of your life....and no one, including your parents, can take that away from you...he and your life together are your new family

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I'm soo sorry you are feeling like that!! Parents sometime don't know how to show the emotions. We all know the economy is hurting everyone REALLY bad!!

If you can just sit with them and discuss a solution for the wedding... Its a matter of a conversation and budget preparation. I know parents can also be stubborn... I really WISH you the best.. Things will turn around quickly... FM should you want to chat!!

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Having the same expereince with my family...I haven't spoken to my aunt and uncle or my grandma since FH and I got engaged....it def *****, but try not to let it distract you from the fun of planning your wedding!!

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I feel the same too. Its like everything was better before we started planning. some peolpe think I live and breathe my wedding plans and not think of any one else. Its fustrating, annoy and alot more feelings. FM me if you want to chat.

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Wedding planning is not fun. Only parts of it.

Hopefully eventhough they are not excited about the planning they will be excited the day of.

Good Luck.

God Bless You.

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I feel like that too sometimes- wedding planning is not always the happy time we expected it to be. I guess when a lot of money is involved- combined with the fact that 2 families are merging together (if they like it or not) and therefore, causing everyone to be emotional AND this crazy economy: THAT'S A LOT OF STRESS!

I feel like everyone is trying to save money- I saw on the news people are selling their hair and even their blood! It's craziness and here we are spending money on flowers that will die and all these 'extras'
This just adds more stress and tension on everyone, not to mention the fact that it seems so much worse bc we are brides...

I tell myself that it wll get better and that my fam or FH's fam doesn't really mean to be this way- it just comes out because there are so many emotions involved.

I hope that after all the big stuff is settled and all of the payments are made things settle down and so does everyone's nerves.
It all seems normal to me...I mean, it's a little abnormal for people to not be emotional in a time like this. Everyone expresses themselves differently.

I hope your feeling better about this situation- your definately not alone.

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thanks everybody. everyone at LIW is so nice! it's def great to have this type of forum! helps you not to go so crazy!!