I have a few people on my invite list that I was friends with in college (got engaged right after) but now that we work in separate places and lead different lives we have drifted apart. I haven't spoken to them in a few months and am now debating should I invite them to the wedding? They know I'm engaged and getting married this summer. What should I do? Anyone else have this problem?
daisybride
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Would you expect to be invited to their weddings?
FLaCaTaCa
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I haven't finished college yet so I am going through this with my HS friends. I was so close to these girls and we really just suddenly stopped talking. It is sad but the reality is....I would feel weird having them there....they don't really know FH but I would also feel bad not inviting them, I just keep thinking what if we ever get close again...like at a reunion or something...how do I tell them about my wedding without hurting them. It stinks...I am not much help but just wanted to tell you, I am going through the same thing.
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I have gone through this but for me I graduated 3 years ago and somepeople I havent spoken to in a year. I would say if its only a few months you havent spoken to them then I would invite them. Simply because I know that in the past few months I have been soo busy with work, and wedding and buying ahouse I havent had time to talk to them much. But I know that in a normal time, when there isnt soo much on my plate and theirs we talk more often.
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I went through this with few friends (not college friends). I invited them...thinking they would come and we could renew our friendships. They both declined...I was so upset. It made me feel like they didn't want to put the effort into our friendship...even for my wedding. I have decided that with this wedding, it's time to clean house in the friends department...and I will not be trying to stay in touch with these individuals.
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Posted by daisybride
Would you expect to be invited to their weddings?
I think that's a good way to judge whether or not you should invite them.
september2004
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Would you expect to be invited to their weddings?
hmmmmmm... expect or think?
i have a situation where i have stopped talking to 2 people (one my very good/practically best friend for 6 years) because i felt very hurt by them and their actions told me that they really didn't care (they are now dating, after i introduced them).
would i EXPECT to be invited to theirs - yes! do i THINK they would invite me at this point, not so sure... do i want them at my wedding - YES, do they want to be there - probably not...
so i have 3 months before i must make a decision. as of now i am not going to invite them because they really hurt me too much and continue to do so by ignoring me...
thoughts? anyone have a similar situation?
this has taken place over 2 1/2 years and i have stopped talking to my best friend for a little over a month, and his girlfriend (a childhood friend of mine) and i have been fake to each other for about a year...
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its a personal preference....Anyone i havent talked to in over a year ( which suddenly has become a BM!! AHHH! ) We're not inviting ( sadly to say--unlessw e need more people due to regrets) They would understand......especially if they dont even know FH
