3 of my Bridesmaids live in NY and the other 3 in Florida..... I took my 3 girls from here to the salon were I got my wedding gown and we decided on a particular gown. I emailed my 3 girls in Florida to let them know the price and the style # and my salons information.... Now this bridesmaid (who hates the dress to begin with-see previous post) emails me saying she called a salon in her area and they can order the dresses for approx $30 less than in NY. She wants to order her dress from them and even suggested ordering ALL the girls dresses from them..... I feel like she is giving me grief and I honestly dont even KNOW what salon this is. What if the dresses come in wrong, or don't come in AT ALL? I don't want it to be her fault, At least if I order my dresses from MY salon here in NY, if something goes wrong, it's MY BAD, not hers.... The thing is, I know they are spending so much $$$ already on air fare and hotel accomodations....I don't know what to do?
MrsBrad
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Here is what I DID ...
I have 2 BM in Cali and 5 in NY. I emailed all the girls 3 stores in each state with the price of the dress at that store, including the style # and whatnot. Then I let them do whatever tehy wanted since they are paying for the dresses.
They all ordered at the store that was best for them, they all got their dresses and it worked out fine.
I wouldnt fret too much.
ETA: It easier for them to order a dress in their hometown - then they can go for fittings and whatnot alot easier.
as1inmay
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i think once the salon in florida has the style # and color of dress eveything will be fine. If I were you I would let the girls in florida order their dresses from the salon in florida and the girls from Ny order where u got ur dress. One of my bridesmaids is getting her dress in virginia and she has the style # and evertyhing.
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I would order them all from the same store.... the dresses should be died all in the same batch otherwise they might be off..... i would order all of them from the same store and have them shipped to the ones in Florida if they want for alterations dont people understand that this is your wedidng and not theirs... they should not be in the bridal party if they dont want to compromise... especially with the dress that is all i am asking from the girls and hair up...not too much make yourself happy...let them nknow that you dont need stress if they come in wrong
i was going to let them order it from where my OOT BM live but SEVERAL salons told me NOT to do this
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I think it will be fine - you could ask one of your girls in FL for a swatch of what she will be getting to compair it to what your girls are getting here.
neesiepie
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Posted by jill13bean
I would order them all from the same store.... the dresses should be died all in the same batch otherwise they might be off..... i would order all of them from the same store and have them shipped to the ones in Florida if they want for alterations dont people understand that this is your wedidng and not theirs... they should not be in the bridal party if they dont want to compromise... especially with the dress that is all i am asking from the girls and hair up...not too much make yourself happy...let them nknow that you dont need stress if they come in wrong
i was going to let them order it from where my OOT BM live but SEVERAL salons told me NOT to do this
I spoke with my other bridesmaids here in NY. One of them brought up a good point...if something were to happen with the other salon, say, the dresses DIDNT come in, or came in wrong, or the colors were WAY off, the blame would be on the BM in Florida. If something (god forbid) were to happen with the dresses from MY salon, then it would be MY BAD and there would be no hard feelings. I told my bm i understand the expense of travel and hotel and if she feels like it is too much $, she doesnt have to be in my wedding....that the worry and stress is not worth the $30 difference and I offered to just pay the difference in price in exchange for peace of mind. I never complained when I flew down there for THEIR weddings! And I wore my hair the way they wanted, wore the jewelry they requested and the shoes they said....SO....now it's MY TURN TO BE BRIDEZILLA!
neesiepie
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I also was told not to order from diff. salons b/c the color would be off....
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I wouldn't be comfortable with it and would let them know it. I would be concerned first with color differences (I've seen this first hand...DISASTER) and secondly with not knowing the reputation of the salon. Could you possibley try to negotiate a better deal with your salon?
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I think those salons just tell you that so that you put your whole order in with them then they make more $$. Even if you order it at the same time, couldn't it still come from 2 different batches of material.
I noticed that your wedding isn't until Sept. 2005. Your bridesmaid have plenty of time so the time factor shouldn't be an issue. If they order now, then there should be plenty of time to straighten things out.
I know that its your wedding and not theirs so you want everything to be perfect. That is exactly why I think that its nice for a bride to also think about the financial cost for the bridesmaids too b/c sometimes brides get so wrapped up in- oh this is my wedding and you should just do it. Anyway, just a thought.
On the other hand, it is only $30. Good luck! Weddings always seem to bring out interesting sides to people :)
neesiepie
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If it was, say $100 difference, i wouldn't think twice about letting them order from their local salon. But for $30, the peace of mind is worth more than the stress
ChristineC68
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Plus it would probably cost close to $30 to ship the dresses to the girls in NY.
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I wouldnt get them from different salons because the color will most likely be a little off. I would just explain it to them and I'm sure they will understand. Dont take any chances of having to argue with stores in Florida because nothing will get done. I know they are spending a lot of money but the $30 they are saving may not be worth the aggravation
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DO NOT ORDER THE DRESSES FROM DIFFERENT SALONS!!!
I was told that they all have to go to the same dye lot! To be honest 30 ain't worth the grief that may occur with ordering the dresses there! If you feel so bad about the expense that the out of state girls are paying, tell them to not give a gift. THis is what i told my 1 OOT BM.
MrsBrad
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my BM dresses all look the same too me and they were ordered from different stores
