What would you do????

Ok i have a bit of a situation here... i am printing my envelopes for my invitations which I hope to get out in the next week or two (want to send them early because alot of my guests need to travel from either out of state or country. there are a few that i still do not have addresses for... They are family members that I have not seen in years and prbably won't come anyway. I have repeatedly asked my dad and grandmother for these ad still do not have them after months of asking...

What do i do omit them from the guest list? Hope that before the wedding they get me these addresses and send them late if so?

I have also looked online, and asked other family members for them and no one has them.

Just as a reminder for those of you who don't know my dad and gradmother are against me having a wedding at my age and against me marrying FH because 'his family thinks they are better then other people' (which they don't.).

You've pretty much done all you can - leave them off the list.

As you get them in (hopefully at some point you'll get addresses) - just send them out.

Not much else you can do.

I would ask them 1 more time and give them a deadline. Tell them that if you don't have the addresses by then, they are not going to be invited at all. Let them know that you think it would be rude to invite them at the last minute as if they are an after thought and will not do that.

Then it is up to them. If they don't get you the addresses, omit them from the list.

That's pretty much what I told FH when he and his family wouldn't even give me a rough estimate of how many people they planned to invite. I got the guest list the next day.

Be firm but not nasty. Tell your dad and grandmother that you need the addresses by June 18th in order to send out the invites.

Just leave it at that. If you don't get the addresses, then obviously you cannot send out an invitation.