What would you do?

um, I would say don't send them an invitation. If you really don't want this person at your wedding and you believe you cannot fix your relationship then don't send an invitation.

That's just my opinion. But I suggest you think really hard about whether you really want to remove this person from your life. And I'm sorry you were back stabbed. Good luck in your decision.

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Posted by StaceYums81

If you feel that someone stabbed you in the back in an indirect manner but you already sent them a save the date card for your wedding??

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I would verify exactly what happened, and then if it did turn out that he/she really did stab you in the back, he/she does not get an invite!

I agree with everyone else...sure its 'rude' to not invite someone after you send a STD...but I think stabbing someone in the back is even ruder!!!!

I also think you should verify what happened to make sure you don't destroy a friendship unnecessarily...

I don't think I would sent an invite. Sorry you're going through this.

I wouldn't invite them!

It could be worse....I just had an epiphany that one of my BM's has been stabbing me in the back for years... now I have to kick her out of the bridal party.

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Posted by JAAMS

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Posted by StaceYums81

If you feel that someone stabbed you in the back in an indirect manner but you already sent them a save the date card for your wedding??

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I would verify exactly what happened, and then if it did turn out that he/she really did stab you in the back, he/she does not get an invite!

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ita!!

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Posted by kater08

I agree with everyone else...sure its 'rude' to not invite someone after you send a STD...but I think stabbing someone in the back is even ruder!!!!

I also think you should verify what happened to make sure you don't destroy a friendship unnecessarily...

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ITA, I think when you send a STD its kind of 'contingent' on the fact that your relationship stays intact and that they dont do anything hurtful towards you! I would just make sure she really did do something intentionally to stab you in the back first.

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Posted by GinaRandy2010

I definitely wouldn't send an invite... forget 'em. Who wants people like that at their wedding???

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I TA! only thing is, you said in an 'indirect manner', so if you want to set the record straight with her, let her know that you know what she did (or he), so that the person can never come back and say that you wrote them off and never even spoke to them about it.

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Posted by MrsSoto

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Posted by GinaRandy2010

I definitely wouldn't send an invite... forget 'em. Who wants people like that at their wedding???

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I TA! only thing is, you said in an 'indirect manner', so if you want to set the record straight with her, let her know that you know what she did (or he), so that the person can never come back and say that you wrote them off and never even spoke to them about it.

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ITA...clear the air, see how this person responds and make a decision. It won't be such a surprise to that person in the end.

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Posted by asg450

um, I would say don't send them an invitation. If you really don't want this person at your wedding and you believe you cannot fix your relationship then don't send an invitation.

That's just my opinion. But I suggest you think really hard about whether you really want to remove this person from your life. And I'm sorry you were back stabbed. Good luck in your decision.

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ITA..
I don't know the details, but you do have time to make your decision.. if he/she truly hurt you i'm sorry, don't feel pitied into inviting her because you sent her a save the date.