What would you do...

if one of your wedding checks bounced? One of my 2nd cousins gave us a check for our wedding & a week after depositing it it came back NSF
Anyway, I emailed her to let her know - obviously this is an embarrassing thing to have to tell someone - but she had responded right away w/ 'oh we've been having trouble w/our bank & they took the mortgage out twice this month...give me your address again & I'll make sure you guys get the gift you were supposed to.' this was back on 8/31 - which as you can see is already just about a month now. I sent a 2nd email a few days ago & tried to play it off like we've been having problems w/our mail & just wanted to make sure your check didnt get lost...no response. It's bad enough for friends to bounce a check on you but you never expect this from family. Has this ever happened to anyone & if so how did you handle it?? TIA for your help!

Sorry to crash,
But i would just let this go. Maybe she is too embarrassed to tell you she doesn't have the money

That happened to mutual friends of mine. One couple was getting married and another friend gave them a check which bounced.

I believe they recirculate the checks as long as the payer doesnt do a stop payment.

Anyway, the 2nd time it went in, it didnt bounce.

If they havent wb to your email, it might be that they're feeling a little bit awkward about the check bouncing and they might not have the money to give you the check because their mortgage was debited twice from their acct. i can imagine that being quite a lot of money. Give it a little bit longer.

If it was my family, yes i'd be a little bit hurt, but I dont think i'd say anything else from the 2nd email.

I'll let you know after this weekend--I haven't deposited my checks yet...

But after mentioning it twice, I think you have no choice but to let it go.

We had two bounce -- my step sister's and a friend of my dad's. My dad told his friend point blank that their check bounced. He's given $500 to each of their 4 kids who have been married (including one who divorced 3 months later and didn't return presents) so he had no qualms about getting on them about it. They just sent us another check.

I told my stepfather about my step sister's and he told her, but we are not expecting another check. I actually felt really bad because the check was for $50 and that's a lot of money for her, and if she got charged $20 or $25 for the bounced check, that's half of it already. I'd rather she not give us money when I know she needs it so much.

In your case, I agree with the previous poster who suggested to let it go. When you send you thank you, just thank her for her gift, whether or not you ever get one.

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Posted by bunny032002

Sorry to crash,
But i would just let this go. Maybe she is too embarrassed to tell you she doesn't have the money

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ITA.....

we had this happen with a check from our e-party. It was from one of my bosses. I was charged 2 $25 fees (total $50) for the bouncing fees. I let it go at first but when she didn't mention it i wanted to make sure she knew in case other checks bounced. Her husband had just started a new business and he had written the check out so I wasn't sure if she knew about it. I was worried this might not have been the only one.

When i told her she said the bank started a new system and everything was supposed to be fixed and no one should have been charged (unfortunately i have a different bank). It was to have been corrected within the week. Luckily i knew one of the managers at MY bank and they refunded my $50 fee. I ended up going to HER bank and making sure the check could be cashed and then after wards just deposited the cash in my account.

I plan on cashing the checks from the wedding this way (at their respective banks if possible) in order to avoid this again. I mean $50 is a lot of money and if I didn't know the bank mgr I would have been out. It ***** but sometimes you have to speak up.. Good Luck