What would you do?

geegee827 Posted: Sep 30, 2009 11:10 AM

What would you do?

So our RSVP date is tomorrow. I'm still missing over 100 RSVPs but I'm not so worried about that now.

FH just called me to say he wants to invite 3 more couples!!! I told him I only have 4 more invitations and our RSVP date is tomorrow. He said 'don't worry about it.' Should I care? Should I put a note in with the invitations? They're his friends and frankly I'm past the point of caring right now, but still don't want to be embarrassed.

What would you girls do?

coldasice217 Posted: Sep 30, 2009 11:29 AM

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Personally, I would probably smack FH. I remember you saying that he's been doing this all along, inviting more and more people...but if you gave him a cutoff to invite more people by, and now 6 more people miraculously materialized, I'd probably say tough. Myself, I'm on FH hard this week and he has until Monday to decide if he's inviting more people and get their addresses, or forever hold his peace, because I'm not sending out invites with an 11/1 rsvp date much past 1 months notice.

geegee827 Posted: Sep 30, 2009 11:51 AM

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I've told him that several times! He's killing me - I told him today this is absolutely it! Oh and he called me to tell me he's inviting them and he'll get me the addresses!

I am just so embarrassed about the date. How can I mail out invitations on 9/30 with a 10/1 RSVP date?

julesrbf Posted: Sep 30, 2009 11:57 AM

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Posted by geegee827

I've told him that several times! He's killing me - I told him today this is absolutely it! Oh and he called me to tell me he's inviting them and he'll get me the addresses!

I am just so embarrassed about the date. How can I mail out invitations on 9/30 with a 10/1 RSVP date?

Honestly, our RSVP date was 9/23 and we sent out a few more invites this past weekend (to people we had spoken with previously). Do they know they are late additions? We broached the subject with a few people and explained that we had to invite a lot of family but they wound up not being able to come, so we are thrilled we can invite some people *we* actually want there (instead of our parents). For the people who said they wanted to come, we sent them the invites and they sent back the RSVPs and that was that! They didn't seem offended at all, but excited to be included!

geegee827 Posted: Sep 30, 2009 12:01 PM

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Posted by julesrbf

Posted by geegee827

I've told him that several times! He's killing me - I told him today this is absolutely it! Oh and he called me to tell me he's inviting them and he'll get me the addresses!

I am just so embarrassed about the date. How can I mail out invitations on 9/30 with a 10/1 RSVP date?

Honestly, our RSVP date was 9/23 and we sent out a few more invites this past weekend (to people we had spoken with previously). Do they know they are late additions? We broached the subject with a few people and explained that we had to invite a lot of family but they wound up not being able to come, so we are thrilled we can invite some people *we* actually want there (instead of our parents). For the people who said they wanted to come, we sent them the invites and they sent back the RSVPs and that was that! They didn't seem offended at all, but excited to be included!

I'm hoping that's the case here. I don't know if he's spoken to them. They are not close friends - more like friends of friends that he feels 'must' be invited. It's not like they were 'B' list or anything - he just forgot about them.

gina409 Posted: Sep 30, 2009 12:33 PM

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we were missing some too..well still are actually...my dad invited some more friends by word of mouth,fh handed a few more friends some

noone really did mind..if i was you i would put a note saying sorry fh dos not know how to make a guest list right..make it as a joke and blame fh lol

im sure they wont mind

meara Posted: Sep 30, 2009 12:50 PM

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Make FH do it! Seriously you should be done.. tell him if he wants to add more folks. . hand him the invitations, tell him to address them and add a note saying something. . .

las1 Posted: Sep 30, 2009 01:14 PM

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We are inviting more people some we could not invite before because our room is capped. My RSVP date is the 7th and we have 93 people that have not RSVP'ed.

xosweetiexo Posted: Sep 30, 2009 01:22 PM

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I would have FH do it since hes inviting them last minute.. AND I would start calling people ASAP to find out what the deal is with the RSVPs...

DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Sep 30, 2009 01:24 PM

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My Fh did the same thing. I ran out of invites and he emailed people and we just added them on as guests.

Once you are ready for your final count to the RH, you will have a definite number. it will be ok

LadyDuda81509 Posted: Sep 30, 2009 01:55 PM

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i would just sent the invites...if FH is ok with them being sent one late, they prob dont care either.

and besides you wanna make sure you meet your min! i know you still have 100 to still hear from, but just in case

springsandra Posted: Sep 30, 2009 03:29 PM

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I had this come up for a few invites. I handwrote a '1' in front of the RSVP date. So in your case, you'd change 10/1 into 10/11... they're not going to care. I wouldn't worry about it. Just send em and start getting on the horn to all your non responders.

geegee827 Posted: Sep 30, 2009 05:05 PM

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Posted by springsandra

I had this come up for a few invites. I handwrote a '1' in front of the RSVP date. So in your case, you'd change 10/1 into 10/11... they're not going to care. I wouldn't worry about it. Just send em and start getting on the horn to all your non responders.

I can't write a '1' in front - it's written out as 'Please respond by the first of October'

I'm going to try to just release the stress of it. They are FH's friends - let him deal with it. I'll put them in the mail, but he's the one who has to claim responsibility.

MLAngelo Posted: Sep 30, 2009 05:12 PM

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I was honest with people and said... look you were on my B List, I wanted you there but with a wedding you are dealing with 2 families and all their friends and family members, so its hard. I really want you to come.

I even invited someone on Facebook. They were fine with it. One person even said to my mom... 'I think being on the B-list is an honor. The A-list are the people you have to invite. The B-list are the people you wanted to invite but couldn't.' I thought that was nice. They probably won't care.