a couple dh & i used to be close with just had a baby. we no longer really keep in touch that often... don't know why... just happened. well, when the wife was preggo, i went to the shower with a nice gift. then when the baby was born, we went to see him and brought him a nice gift. now, the baby is being christened and we are unable to go to the christening.. but don't think i am going to send a gift because we aren't all that close anymore and i haven't received not a single thank you card for anything! am i wrong?
Suzanne
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I wouldnt send anything. I cant believe you never received a thank you card!!! now thats rude!
Stinker
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Hi -
I should have put this on my pet peeve board - God how hard is it to send a thank you ??? I have to send out plenty - it's really not a major deal.
Anyway can you send flowers or maybe a nice pic frame or baby album, dont break the bank on them is what I'm saying but send something (not MONEY) Just to avoid any akward momentsfor you in the future.
joeslauren
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thanks suzanne - at least i know i am not crazy! i agree with the thank you card deal - i know having a baby can be very overwhelming and extremely tiring (im trying to convince myself that it wasnt intentionally forgotten about!) but i can't help but feel that it's the least one can do when people come to support you and bring you gifts when in need. uuugghhh! awkward moments.. i don't think i care too much about that bc if anything, they should feel awkward i think! i remember how awkward i felt at each family or friend gathering after the wedding... before sendingo ut our thank you's! i know what you are saying.. just to keep peace of mind but... just aggravates me! thanks girls!
Lisa Rose
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I wouldnt give anything.
That is a big pet peeve with me...not thank you note!!! ARghhhhhhhhh
Stinker
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Agreed they totally are the ones who should feel akward - but usually people who dont send TY's are not the type to feel badly about it. You dont have to send anything at all - I just know I would cave !
Good Luck !
joeslauren
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Lisa - it makes me fume! Thanks Meg - I hear what you are saying bc I know I'll always have that thought in the back of my head when either they call or don't call! Oh well - I have to make a point too I guess! But you're right... these type of people don't seem to ever get it.
CherylBooch
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I'd send a nice $1.99 card and leave it at that!
joeslauren
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that's what i prob will do! being that i already bought one
LizD
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I agree, no gift just a card this time. I agree with everyone --too rude not to send a TY card
HeatherandNick
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I wouldn't send anything
Samanthas Mom
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You already gave two gifts so I dont think you have to give another if you dont go
joeslauren
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thank you girlies! i'm unfortunately the type of person who always feels as though i am obligated to send something if i was invited so... but that is going to change! no TY = no future gift!
ILT1221
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If you really feel bad I like Stinker's idea of sending them a picture frame to avoid any awkward moments in the future. But you've done enough!
butterfly20
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id probably just send a card... with no gift.. you already gave them plenty
jenny2penny
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I agree you sent 2 gifts already and no thank you? Not nice!!!!
I have a weak spot...I would support your decision to not send a gift...but you could send a savings bond in the baby's name...then it definitely goes to the baby who is really innocent in this matter...
joeslauren
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yabbo - i have thought of that too... but i just think that they should have at least acknowledged that WE acknowledged the birth of their child TWICE! i know, i know... i hate these things! thanks girls for your advice! i think i'll go ahead with just a card this time! gotta get over feeling bad.. bc they obviously don't!
