What would you do if you found out someone in your family cheated?
on their spouse??
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What would you do if you found out someone in your family cheated?
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It would depend on who. I've heard my uncle cheats on my aunt, but I am not close to them at all (they live in FL), and I know she suspects something but isn't willing to leave their huge house and great lifestyle she has with him. If it was my dad (before my parents got divorced--he never cheated, but supposing he did) I totally would tell my mom. She's one of my best friends.
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it is immediate and it happened in the past.....![]()
I'm not sure what to think and now it makes me think that it could have been part of my issue with relationships and cheating on my boyfriends myself (I did it 1 or 2 times)
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Posted by btrflygrl
it is immediate and it happened in the past.....I'm not sure what to think and now it makes me think that it could have been part of my issue with relationships and cheating on my boyfriends myself (I did it 1 or 2 times)
Thing is, I think many times the other person really knows. How did you come to find out?
ETA: I cheated on every boyfriend before DH. Just made me realize I was holding out for the real thing!
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I had that happen already in my family !![]()
my uncle went through a midlife crisis and he cheated on my aunt we were mad at him for a longtime. now its been4 years and they are still together they worked on their issues one specfic TRUST we forgave him because he is not with that other person anymore and he really loves my aunt. my father was mad at him too for a while because he cheated on his sister but he eventually forgave him.
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the person who did the chating came out and told me because we are very close
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Posted by btrflygrl
the person who did the chating came out and told me because we are very close
That's rough. I would talk to the cheater and try to convince them to tell their spouse. I think cheating is always indicative of larger problems that lie unaddressed, and if not solved, I don't think the relationship can be salvaged. But it is hard to tell the other person, and if they have small kids or whatever they may be afraid of what their life would be like not married...Good luck...But I think it is their place to tell the spouse, not you. Did you tell Rich? What does he think?
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well...thing is, it wasn't with the current spouse. I don't plan on doing anything with the information, it's just that it disappointed me so much and I kind of lost some respect for this person. I knew of the past situation, so I can understand WHY it happened. It just bothers me emotionally.
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What can you do? Like you said, you aren't going to do anything with the information. Would you have been happier not knowing or would you rather know the truth about this person -- that he/she is not perfect?
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I did two years ago...i dont want to ge too specific...but it was someone I was very close to...and it was terrible for his wife..she was calling my mom and I and it was difficult hearing her hurt so much! They have three children and his wife is such a beautiful and loving wife and mother...he made a big mistake...it was hard for awhile but they remained together and have worked through it and they are happy again... i giver her a lot of credit for sticking through it because he really is a loving father and husband he just got caught up in a huge disaster..i am not giving him right at all.. BUt i am glad they were able to work it out
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Posted by btrflygrl
well...thing is, it wasn't with the current spouse. I don't plan on doing anything with the information, it's just that it disappointed me so much and I kind of lost some respect for this person. I knew of the past situation, so I can understand WHY it happened. It just bothers me emotionally.
Think of it this way: People are complicated. We have both good and bad qualities. So you can like some things about them and dislike others. Just because he did one bad thing doesn't mean it negates all of the great things he has done.
