Ok I need all the opinions I can get on this one..... My friend just told me when she wants to have her bachelorette party (i am a bridesmaid). its the same day as FH's really good friends wedding. When I asked her if there was ANY other day she could do it she said no when she asked why i told her and she explained that there really isnt any other date and thats fine. So she was upset b/c she didnt want me to miss it and i said no i'm definitely coming to your bachelorette party (and i meant it) so FH comes home and i tell him what happens and hes giving me a REALLY hard time about missing the friends wedding. Plus when i ask my girls to be in bridal party I plan on asking her. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE ME? I dont think its that big of a deal that i'm missing the wedding......... HELP!
*** OK So i spoke with my friend and explained that i already told FH i would go to the wedding with him, his parents are going to be there, we already told his friend we were coming and I feel i have to go to the wedding. Plus if FH turned the tables on me and said he was going to miss your wedding to go to a bachelor party I would be mad and tell him no you're going to the wedding.... AND shes mad at me... shes like well its not just anybodys bachelorette party. I suggested going to the spa during the day, not really interested.... so now i dont know what to do......
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Ok I need all the opinions I can get on this one..... My friend just told me when she wants to have her bachelorette party (i am a bridesmaid). its the same day as FH's really good friends wedding. When I asked her if there was ANY other day she could do it she said no when she asked why i told her and she explained that there really isnt any other date and thats fine. So she was upset b/c she didnt want me to miss it and i said no i'm definitely coming to your bachelorette party (and i meant it) so FH comes home and i tell him what happens and hes giving me a REALLY hard time about missing the friends wedding. Plus when i ask my girls to be in bridal party I plan on asking her. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE ME? I dont think its that big of a deal that i'm missing the wedding......... HELP!
*** OK So i spoke with my friend and explained that i already told FH i would go to the wedding with him, his parents are going to be there, we already told his friend we were coming and I feel i have to go to the wedding. Plus if FH turned the tables on me and said he was going to miss your wedding to go to a bachelor party I would be mad and tell him no you're going to the wedding.... AND shes mad at me... shes like well its not just anybodys bachelorette party. I suggested going to the spa during the day, not really interested.... so now i dont know what to do......
tell her to sit on it and rotate. how selfish can she be? you had a prior engagement. its not your fault she chose to wait to tell you about it. you cant just back out of a wedding... ask her how she'd feel if someone that already RSVPd to her wedding all of a sudden said she cant be there because she had 'something better to do'.
shes a snot.
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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WoW Some friend ya got there! Really understanding I see...
MegBert
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Screw her then
missliss
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I think it's a little selfish of her. But like a previous poster said, you had a prior commitment. It's unfortunate, but there's really nothing you can do. It's not like you already had dinner plans. You responded yes to a wedding and that's that. Hopefully she'll calm down and see it from your viewpoint and it will blow over. Sorry you have to deal with that.
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Yeah.. I would tell her to put herself in your position and if you knew before hand you would def. be there. She may just be hurt now because she really wants you there but, if she's a real friend she will get over it
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Don't worry. She'll get over it. Offer to take her out another weekend.
Seriuosly She's not your true friend and she is a selfish b!tch ..Fu¢k her then your life with your FH is more important than her feelings because if she cared about you and your feelings then she would understand and do something with you on another day ... you even offerred to do the spa thing and she is still inconsiderate ahh fu¢k her!! sorry so harsh but she got me mad!
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thank you so much for your comment. i have been so mad all day..... we have been a bit rocky the last few years. her and fh dont get along and we havent been that close since.... i debated about being a bm and now i just want to call her and tell her to shove her bm's dress! two min after i got off the phone with my friend the bridal party got an email saying 'well since oct 20th isnt good for some people maybe we can change it to oct 6 but we have to decide asap b/c she has to take the day off from work' that PISSED me off b/c now i'm 'SOME PEOPLE' GO SCRATCH I DONT EVEN WANT TO GO NOW or be in her wedding
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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WOWWWWWWW I'd def tell her to take the dress n shove it ... easier said than done I'm sure Can we say bRiDeZiLLa?!?!?!?
Wow I cant believe that ... yeah she must be from the knot!! I would want to step down from being in her Bridal party but its not that easy i bet! I would definately say to her 'what is your fu¢king problemwith me ?' and see where that leads ... Oh man I would be furious with smoke coming out of my ears!!
