What would you do? Wedding related major big question...

PoppedInASnap Posted: Sep 24, 2009 12:28 PM

What would you do? Wedding related major big question...

So, last year my boss, who was a friend before she became boss, was invited to my shower...

She never RSVP or showed up...

Then, I sent her an invite to my wedding and never got a RSVP back from that either, so, I let it go.

Turns out the day of my wedding, she told my co workers she never got an invitation and that she wasnt invited!!!!!!!!!

Now, heres the thing. Every single person I sent the invite to got it. We only got ONE back and it was because i wrote the wrong zipcode.

Now, if she actually didn't get one... wouldn't she think to tell me? On her bridal shower thank you note, i wrote 'I TRUELY HOPE TO SEE YOU AT MY WEDDING!'

What would you do?

Say something to her, like, I heard you didnt get an invitation to the wedding, just so you know I sent one out...

OR

Let it go?

I am kind of upset because she did the same for the shower. I checked the address on my computer ( I printed them) and it was correct....

whtevjenny Posted: Sep 24, 2009 12:49 PM

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did you ever ask her about her RSVP when it didn't come? weird situation. I don't know what you can really say now that the wedding already happened?

PROBM Posted: Sep 24, 2009 12:56 PM

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i would totally make a joke about not rsvping like this

'mention thit site and say some girl is crying about not rsvping and then look at her and say you didnt rsvp i dont care ' hahahahahah

something like that

meg922 Posted: Sep 24, 2009 01:29 PM

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Do you send holiday cards to the people in your office? If so, you can use that as a pretext to verify her address and say you just wanted to check because you heard through the grapevine that some of your recent correspondence to her may have been lost in the mail.

Dr Meg Posted: Sep 24, 2009 01:35 PM

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Unfortunately what's done is done. I would just be honest with her. Say you heard through the grapevine that she thought she wasn't invited. Verify her address and mention you sent both a shower and wedding invite to her, and apologize if she didn't get it. Hopefully she will see that you are being sincere.

NikkiR515 Posted: Sep 24, 2009 01:54 PM

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Posted by Dr Meg

Unfortunately what's done is done. I would just be honest with her. Say you heard through the grapevine that she thought she wasn't invited. Verify her address and mention you sent both a shower and wedding invite to her, and apologize if she didn't get it. Hopefully she will see that you are being sincere.

ITA... The whole thing sounds a little fishy to me but even is she is lying, it's better to take the high road. It's just not worth it at this point.

gina409 Posted: Sep 24, 2009 03:56 PM

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i would say something...just be honest and say we sent it and im so sorry u ddnt get it

las1 Posted: Sep 24, 2009 04:27 PM

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Posted by Dr Meg

Unfortunately what's done is done. I would just be honest with her. Say you heard through the grapevine that she thought she wasn't invited. Verify her address and mention you sent both a shower and wedding invite to her, and apologize if she didn't get it. Hopefully she will see that you are being sincere.

I agree. But that is wierd that she waited awhile before she said something?

FutureMrsFass Posted: Sep 24, 2009 04:48 PM

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I would just be honest and up front....

PoppedInASnap Posted: Sep 24, 2009 07:26 PM

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Yeah i know...but here is the most recent thing that i wa supet about...

We got our snow chain today....

and i checked the address on the computer...

ITS THE SAME THING!!!!!!

And, that means,
The shower invite
the shower thank you
AND
the wedding invitation all didnt get to her...

And one didnt make it back?

Now I'm just annoyed she lied. I think I am going to send her one of our thank you (wedding ones) and write 'Although you couldn't make it to our wedding, we wish you were there and wanted to say thank you for everything last year'

even though its bs....

I never mentioned the RSVP because we were out of work (Im a teacher) by the RSVP date and I was completely too out of it. Ithought she was just not RSVPing like she did the shower...

I don't know....

I know, its the past, whats done is done, but i really did invite her!!