My friend of 12 years called me two days before my wedding and said that she (and her date) would not be coming to the wedding because she wasn't feeling well (have repercussions from a car accident over one year ago). I wished her well and said maybe she could come to the church because it meant the world to me for her to be there. She never showed. I have YET to hear from this person. I contacted her sister and asked if she was okay and she said 'absolutely, she's just busy'. What happened to not feeling well? What happened to my 'congratulations' even if it was an e-mail, voice mail, a card? This friend and I have been through alot together and I am trying to overlook this but I just can't. I am WAY too angry to confront her....How can I get over this? Am I being ridiculous? I don't think I am....Absolutely nothing strange happened before the wedding between us to make her do this!
Thanks for listening to my vent....just can't believe her.
Marly
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It could be that maybe she feels now that you are married, the two of you won't have anything in common anymore and that your friendship won't be the same. She may not know how to deal with it, things like this happen at times.
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I would be upset definitely without a doubt. Especially being that you have known her for awhile and two day sbefore...I would throw a tantrum!
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Maybe she is going through her OWN Major problems!!! That's the only thing that I can think of, b/c that is SO UNCALLED FOR!!!!! Plus not even a phone call??!?!?! Did she have a death in her family, or is she REALLY SICK???!?!? IF not.... I believe in WHAT GOES AROUND COMES BACK AROUND AGAIN!!!!
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I'm sorry this happened to you. I just don't get how people can't have common courtesy. It sounds like we may have one of the same friends.
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that is really wrong, I am so sorry, she obviously wasn't as good as a friend as you thought.
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thats awful! sorry to hear that
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I had a similar thing happen to me and a friend of over 20 years. She RSVPed yes for 2 and on my wedding day never showed. I got nervous because she had been in the hospital for an illness, and hoped I would have a messgae or email from her or her BF with an explanation.
Nothing at all and then 2 weeks later she sends me another lame-o email forward, and I was like OOOOOOKKKKKKKK??????? What the hell happened to you. She had said she was in the hospital, but to me it sounded a bit exaggerated.
No gify, no card, no congrats, nothing. I have since dropped her, although I am not sure she knows....
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That's horrible. I'm really sorry. What I've heard from ppl over the years (this is pretty harsh and definitely NOT what I subscribe to) is that your wedding is only incredibly imp to you, your FI and your immediate family. Old friends start showing their true colors when it comes to weddings for a variety of reasons and this is just something we brides have to deal with :(
With that said, I dont' have to deal with anything and am right there with you when you say you're angry! You should be! I hope it all works out for you.
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To be honest, this doesn't sound like a very good friend to me. I would give her a call and find out the truth. Unless something serious came up, there is no excuse for her not attending.
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SORRY!!!!
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RIDIC', her loss, she missed out on a great day!
The older I get the more I realize that friend break-ups happen just like boyfriend break-ups, sometimes you just don't need certain people in your life!
Maybe she is going through something right now, but who doesn't love a wedding!? She didn't get to be apart of your amazing day. I think I would wait a little bit then call to see what her deal was and let her know it was offensive. Even if you don't remain friends, at least she'll think twice before she pulls this with someone else.
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Maybe jealousy played a part in her not showing up?
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I'm sorry you had to go through that....maybe she wasn't feeling well and then time passed and she was too embarassed to get in contact with you (which is kinda lame...but still)
