when do you ask bridesmaids?

FutureMcBride Posted: Feb 10, 2010 02:58 PM

when do you ask bridesmaids?

I know who I want to be in my BP but don't know when is a good time to ask them.... we have a long time until the wedding (2012). So should I wait or ask them now? I haven't said anything to any of the girls because I want to ask them in a special way and I think they may be wondering why I didn't ask yet lol. I haven't even drunkenly let anything spill! haha

AdriandSteve Posted: Feb 10, 2010 03:03 PM

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Wow.. your not getting married for another 2 years. I would aboslutely NOT ask ANYONE or even hint to anyone about being in your bridal party. A LOT can happen in 2 years and you don't want to ask someone and then have to kick them out of the party. Also, you can become very close with people in 2 years and might want them in your wedding party.

I wouldn't ask until next year the earliest. I was engaged for 8 months before asking my bridal party which was about a year before.

brooklynbrideliboy Posted: Feb 10, 2010 03:04 PM

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I think you still have time to ask them...but at least give them a year to know and plan for vacation days and stuff...

FutureMcBride Posted: Feb 10, 2010 03:07 PM

Re: when do you ask bridesmaids?

Posted by AdriandSteve

Wow.. your not getting married for another 2 years. I would aboslutely NOT ask ANYONE or even hint to anyone about being in your bridal party. A LOT can happen in 2 years and you don't want to ask someone and then have to kick them out of the party. Also, you can become very close with people in 2 years and might want them in your wedding party.

I wouldn't ask until next year the earliest. I was engaged for 8 months before asking my bridal party which was about a year before.

right... that's what I was thinking. That's why I haven't even hinted at anyone! I want to so badly but I know things change etc in 2 years! So I will prob wait awhile lol.

I know it's so far away blahhh I probably shouldn't be planning anything yet but I am so excited!

Never2Part Posted: Feb 10, 2010 03:09 PM

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def. wait til you're closer to the year mark!

jilliebean84 Posted: Feb 10, 2010 03:10 PM

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I asked the girls a year and four months before the wedding. I was ready to start looking at gowns, and felt that it was important to have the bridal party in order, first. We were engaged for more than six months at that point. FH asked the guys immediately, though - except for my sister's husbands, he waited for me to ask my sisters before he asked them.

Diana508 Posted: Feb 10, 2010 03:29 PM

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You should definitely wait, believe me. I would never have thought it, but friendships changed. I got engaged and am getting married exactly one year later. I wish I wouldn't have rushed into asking. I've grown extremely close to someone (even before getting engaged) and if I were to do it all again today, she'd be in it and someone else out.

Friendships really do change and people who you think are there for you, really aren't and some you might not consider close, will become your best friends.

Jna2010 Posted: Feb 10, 2010 03:31 PM

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Posted by AdriandSteve

Wow.. your not getting married for another 2 years. I would aboslutely NOT ask ANYONE or even hint to anyone about being in your bridal party. A LOT can happen in 2 years and you don't want to ask someone and then have to kick them out of the party. Also, you can become very close with people in 2 years and might want them in your wedding party.

I wouldn't ask until next year the earliest. I was engaged for 8 months before asking my bridal party which was about a year before.

i agree so many girls have ssues with bms theyve asked. people alwas say to wait on that

AdriandSteve Posted: Feb 10, 2010 03:31 PM

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Posted by FutureMcBride

Posted by AdriandSteve

Wow.. your not getting married for another 2 years. I would aboslutely NOT ask ANYONE or even hint to anyone about being in your bridal party. A LOT can happen in 2 years and you don't want to ask someone and then have to kick them out of the party. Also, you can become very close with people in 2 years and might want them in your wedding party.

I wouldn't ask until next year the earliest. I was engaged for 8 months before asking my bridal party which was about a year before.
right... that's what I was thinking. That's why I haven't even hinted at anyone! I want to so badly but I know things change etc in 2 years! So I will prob wait awhile lol.

I know it's so far away blahhh I probably shouldn't be planning anything yet but I am so excited!

I would just do your RH right now. Maybe photo and DJ, everything else can wait. Try not to think about asking the BP or else you'll cave lol.

LaBellaVita622 Posted: Feb 10, 2010 03:44 PM

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I have a long engagement too. I never really asked anyone though. I have a few close friends that just 'know' they are in it it, plus my sister & FSIL. So I think it depends on the situation. Bu ti do have one friend that I am debating if I should ask her but I will wait til we get closer.

P.S. I sent you FM