Honestly... do you give less as a gift b/c you also have to pay for hotel / travel expenses?
natseven
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Honestly... do you give less as a gift b/c you also have to pay for hotel / travel expenses?
No I give the same
I give the same also
Chanwich
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I've been to a bunch of OOT weddings, and I give the same that I would here. But I have to say that most of the time, the couple has been shocked that we gave so much. So I would think that it might be OK to not give as much if you are spending a lot to travel.
beram63
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idk what the etiquette is. i can tell you that i gave $200 for my friend's albany wedding in spite of the fact that we had travel expenses (hotel, etc.) and i gave $400 for my friend's maryland wedding, but i was the maid of honor. in general, i think there def less of an expectation bc weddings don't cost nearly as much, so if you're struggling w/ a budget, just give what you can and forget about it.
MsPotterhead
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I give the same. But, if its someone I'm not that close with, and its really out of town -- like a plane ride rather than a long drive away -- I might not go. That happened to me last year. A girl I was friendly with, but not too close with got married in Ohio, between Christmas and New Year's. I really couldn't justify spending all that $ on airfare, hotel, etc around the holidays for someone that wasn't one of my closest friends. So I sent her a gift off her registry and didn't go. She understood, and actually expected a lot of the people she invited to do that.
lonal
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I give the same anount that I would give if it wasn't OOT.
DGoldfarb0776
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I would still give a gift regarless if I had to pay travel/toll/airfare expenses. If someone does give me less of a gift because of this then I wouldn't mind at all- I know some are not used to NY weddings.
Mici n KC
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I give what I can afford.
lookitscassie
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i went to a wedding in puerto rico last november. the trip cost over 2,000 so i only gave a 200 gift. but that was for me alone. and i thought it was more then enough since i spent so much money to fly there and stay there for a week of wedding fun
sarahthegreat
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we went to an OOT wedding in PA. the bride and my dh have known each other since they were about 4. i think we gave $300.
AllJoy
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I would only go if I was extremely close to that person. I would just give a little bit less of a gift.
jeanne08
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I always do cash/check. Gift can be too much to transport with your luggage. Some people are real sticklers for the 'you have to cover yourself for the party' meaning you need to somehow find out how much the couple is paying per plate for reception. and compensate by giving them at least that much as a gift. I don't do that I have a standard amount that I feel comfortable giving, everyone gets the same. (If I win the lotto I might be able to afford to up that amount)
Jetfan1521
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We are in the same boat too...my best friend is getting married in the Keys Nov. 17th...we have travel expenses and what not...but am still going to give them either $500 or $600! Even though their wedding is OOS...it's still costing them almost the same as having it up here..with much fewer people!
ligirlz
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I went to DH's cousins wedding in Calfornia a couple years ago and we gave what we would usually give for a in state wedding. We saved up because we knew we were going.
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FH and I went to a wedding in Wales, we gave the couple less than we would if it was a wedding in the US. Suprisingly they were shocked to receive what they received and thought we were generous. we had to pay for hotel and flight and a rental car.
Summer07Bride
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We had to stay in a hotel for the last one we went to and we gave them same gift we would have given if we had not traveled.
o17range
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HONESTLY...I usually do give a smaller gift. That's more a product of WHERE most of my OOT weddings have been, where a 'standard' wedding gift is at least half of what I would normally give. Does that make sense? The first few times I attended weddings where I gave my standard NY gift--I made the bride almost feel BAD by the amt I gave (which was the same or more than what their close family members had given). Normally, these days a bunch of our friends will go in for a big gift together and we'll give 'generous' amts for that area (but still not what I would give for a NY wedding.) It's not ONLY because of travel expenses, it's also because of disparities in gift giving. And when I do send a gift, I would NEVER bring it--always send it the week before the wedding so someone is there to accept it (and not away on honeymoon!)
