Where are your......

Future Mulligan Posted: Mar 24, 2008 06:23 PM

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aunts or older female relatives getting dresses for your wedding? would it be weird if they were shopping for their dress at a bridal shop that sells mob and bridesmaid dresses?? i just dont want my mom to be outdone - i dont think she will be BUT im just saying

NC1011 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 06:27 PM

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This was a concern of mine too. We decided on having our wedding be 'Black Tie Optional' ( for various reasons) and now I'm worried for my mom b/c she does not really like any MOB dresses that she has seen - she still thinks she is my age and sometimes dresses it . So she wanted to go to some other stores that people have told her about but I'm afraid that if anyone else is going out to get a fancy dress, they might be too similar - or worse - the same as my mom's.

Future Mulligan Posted: Mar 24, 2008 06:30 PM

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i was glad that they want to wear an 'evening gown' and i totally expect everyone to be wearing floor length gowns (it will be december) and i want a classy and elegant affair i just dont know why they wouldnt be shopping in a department store instead of ordering a dress from a bridal shop and having it altered im not going to stress it - just wondering if its normal or not

Kimbalina Posted: Mar 24, 2008 06:32 PM

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They know the style of MOB dress for my mom and what my grandma plans on wearing. I havent really thought about them. I dont see it being a problem...
But I get where you are coming from-

NC1011 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 06:33 PM

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I think that some people just get really excited to get all dressed up and go to a fancy affair and if they dont get to do it too often, then they wanna go all out. Or maybe if its family members of yours or FH's they feel like they should or want to be just as fancy as the rest of the BP. I decided not to stress out about it too much either. I dont think anything can really take away from the mother of the bride

NC1011 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 06:35 PM

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I do see your point tho with the whole spending more in a bridal shop and paying for alterations. I've never really heard of anyone doing that before but I guess it's not totally unheard of.

Future Mulligan Posted: Mar 24, 2008 06:37 PM

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i just dont want my Moms only sister also wearing a mother of the bride gown - i mean it doesnt bother me so much but i dont want it to bother my Mom - i just dont know why she is looking at mother of the bride dresses in the first place i think maybe she doesnt realize thats what they are i dont know i just dont want my Mom to be annoyed or upset about it

NC1011 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 06:40 PM

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i just dont want my Moms only sister also wearing a mother of the bride gown - i mean it doesnt bother me so much but i dont want it to bother my Mom - i just dont know why she is looking at mother of the bride dresses in the first place i think maybe she doesnt realize thats what they are i dont know i just dont want my Mom to be annoyed or upset about it

Yeah - that could be a little touchy. Do you chat with your aunt regularly? Maybe if you are fairly close with her you could offer to go with her and this way you can 'regulate' a little bit. Or maybe just casually mention some places that have really pretty evening dresses for better prices and no need for alterations. (i.e. Nordstrom, Bloomingdales, Lord and Taylor etc.) Maybe that might push her off into a different direction.

LauraD419 Posted: Mar 24, 2008 09:32 PM

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My aunt bought a dress at Estelle's (but we saw it in an MOB shop also)...I don't think they'll upstage your mom as long as they buy something that is appropriate for an aunt.