who are you tipping? edited to say: I think I just can't take it anymore

Original post by suven

Apr 27, 2004 09:10 AM

I see that we are always talking about tips. But, to be honest, if I tipped as many vendors as much as I hear on these boards, I would really be broke.

So, who REALLY needs to be tipped? And, my hall charged me 15% gratuity. Why is it that I am supposed to feel compelled to tip on top of this? Should I really pitch in MORE money because my hall supposedly does not give this gratuity to the wait staff and banquet manager?

mattituckprincess Posted: Apr 27, 2004 05:40 PM

Re: who are you tipping? edited to say: I think I just can't take it anymore

is anyone tipping with bottles of wine or godiva chocolate? we were only going to tip the maitre d with cash and then i thought when we picked up the pictures, picked up the dress, when the flowers were dropped off at my house etc, we would tip with wine or choc?

suven Posted: Apr 27, 2004 05:48 PM

Re: who are you tipping? edited to say: I think I just can't take it anymore

Posted by mattituckprincess

is anyone tipping with bottles of wine or godiva chocolate? we were only going to tip the maitre d with cash and then i thought when we picked up the pictures, picked up the dress, when the flowers were dropped off at my house etc, we would tip with wine or choc?

Now THERE is a GOOD idea!!!! I may do something like that for my florist. I think she's earned something nice, but I am completely out of cash!

MegLehner Posted: Apr 27, 2004 06:22 PM

Re: who are you tipping? edited to say: I think I just can't take it anymore

I think these tipping threads are so annoying
If you want to tip TIP, if you dont DONT.
I'm tipping youre not - what is the difference.
Throwing the bartenders, waitstaff, valets & coat checks some xtra cash at the begining of the night can only make your wedding better.
If your photo guy is great - give him a tip. If he sucks then don't.
What surprises me is that people are so surprised that they are expected to tip. I would think this is something that should be incorperated into budget. If $ is tight and you cant afford it - cut something like the cheap favors that people are just going to trash anyway. People arent going to remember the xmas ornament or picture frame you gave them at your wedding, but they are going to remember that your band sucked because they were too tired to play cause you didnt want to feed them or that your bartender had a line out the door cause you complained about them having a tip cup, but you dont want to tip em. JMO

Ophelia42 Posted: Apr 27, 2004 07:16 PM

Re: who are you tipping? edited to say: I think I just can't take it anymore

Posted by MegLehner
What surprises me is that people are so surprised that they are expected to tip. I would think this is something that should be incorperated into budget.

I just don't see why we are paying so much just to have to tip on top of it. like the photographer - many of us are paying/will pay upwards of $4000 for the photographer. Now we are supposed to 'tip' him/her an extra hundred dollars for deigning to perform the service that we are paying so much for? That's insane! Same with the videographer. Same with the waitstaff/bartender/coatcheck tips which are supposedly included in the 18% gratuity they add on to the reception. If the hall doesn't give that money out to the staff, it isn't MY problem.