Who gives toasts at weddings?

MrsCM Posted: May 21, 2009 11:43 PM

Who gives toasts at weddings?

Traditionally who gives toasts at weddings? I know the best man does, who else?

FutureMrsG Posted: May 21, 2009 11:45 PM

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BM and MOH

MrsCM Posted: May 21, 2009 11:46 PM

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Also, who gives the blessing? (These forms are too over my head)

MrsCM Posted: May 21, 2009 11:47 PM

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Posted by FutureMrsG

BM and MOH

So if I have 3 bridesmaids, no maid of honor, they will likely all give toasts?

Sweeteey51 Posted: May 21, 2009 11:56 PM

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all of them or you can pick 1 to give a speech.
You can pick who you want to say the blessings.

maryana Posted: May 21, 2009 11:57 PM

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I think, especially in today's times, there is no set standard of who must give the speech at the wedding. I know parents of bride and groom usually do and the bride and groom can make a small 'thank you' speech-- but if you don't have a MOH you can have one BM who knows you best or is special to you give a speech or not have any of the BM give a speech or have all of them give a really short speech (since there are three) or a combination speech between all of them or two of them... I think anything works!

MrsCM Posted: May 22, 2009 12:03 AM

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Thanks for all the advice guys. Can I ask a dumb question...what exactly is the blessing???

MrsL2010 Posted: May 22, 2009 08:21 AM

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Posted by seawedding

Thanks for all the advice guys. Can I ask a dumb question...what exactly is the blessing???

I think the blessing is more if you invite the priest/rabbi or other officiant to the ceremony. at my brother's wedding, we had the priest there because he is a family friend so he did the blessing. at my friends wedding last weekend, they were married by a judge, so there was no blessing. at my cousins wedding, the bride's father did the blessing. i guess it's all a matter of personal preference, but it's not something that must be done.

MarjorieFrank Posted: May 22, 2009 09:12 AM

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A blessing is normally done by a holy man, like a priest or rabbi. It's just a short prayer over the food and couple.

Usually the best man and the MOH do toasts. If you don't have an MOH, maybe you can ask your BMs who would like to do it.

MrsCtoB Posted: May 22, 2009 09:56 AM

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I am going to have my MOH do a toast at the rehearsal dinner an the BM at the wedding.

MrsCM Posted: May 22, 2009 10:39 AM

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I think I understand the blessing now. One of my dj forms asked for the name of who was giving the blessing and the toasts which prompted this question!

ange1x Posted: May 22, 2009 10:42 AM

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The Maid of honor and best man. We had my dad give a blessing instead of a priest or rabbi. It was really nice.

Dee0522 Posted: May 22, 2009 11:27 AM

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Whoever you want to give a toast can give a toast... or whoever would like to. DH had two best men (his dad and his brother) so they both spoke, along with my MOH. Then my dad stood up and wanted to thank everyone for coming and he ended up giving the most beautiful speech as well! Sometimes the unexpected moments are the best ones!