I know that I'm the bride and this is not really my bussiness, but WHO pays for the bridal shower??? FMIL says that the bridesmaids do, but my mom feels like it's her responsibility- I think everyone should put in alittle ... TIA
myprinn5667
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My mom and sister are paying for mine. They say BM are supposed to that is not what I want. The MOH can ask the BM to chip in for a nice gift for you. I feel personally its what you will be comfortable with.
JenBill61210
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my mom will be paying for mine
GinaZ
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I always knew it as the bridesmaids being responsible for it. However, when the family wants it to be really big or above the means of the bridal party, I think it is great when they offer to help pay!
Colleen214
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my mom paid for mine, but my younger sister was MOH so that sort of played into it....also two of MY BMs were my cousins, so we had a very young bridal party, so my mom took care of everything. Also my MIL paid for part as well.
Yankees2323
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i was the MOH for my best friends wedding last yr and the Bm's all pitched in and rented a hall and everyone cooked something also everyone pitched in $10 for decorations and a panties line!! lol it was so much fun
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My mom paid. I didn't feel right having my sister (MOH) ask my BMs for more money. It was hard enough asking them to pay for the dress, hair, make-up, and gifts....
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my fmil and fsil will be hosting mine. if they hadn't done this, my mom would have paid, i didn't feel comfortable having my bridal party pay as they have already done so much and these things can get pricey.
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I know that I'm the bride and this is not really my bussiness, but WHO pays for the bridal shower??? FMIL says that the bridesmaids do, but my mom feels like it's her responsibility- I think everyone should put in alittle ... TIA
For the bridal shower, tradition has changed.
Standard was that the MOH paid with the BP's help. However, today it's more of a collaborative effort...or the MOB pays for most. If your mom wants to pay, like my mom did, then I would let her--she sees this as an opportunity to put something nice together for YOU and it's a special time for her.
Vineyard72509
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I guess I'm jsut showing my inner control freak because its the one thing I have no control over- I am lucky to have a great BP and the world most amazing MOH...
jtgarsik
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well - in old school days the bm's paid..so that's probably why she's thinking that. my mom paid the bulk of my shower, but each of my BM's chipped in a little bit...i forget the amount but each of them did help..i had 8 girls so it wasn't too bad. any wedding i've been in we've also helped so maybe ur mother could do something like that?? if its coming up though & it hasn't been discussed with the girls yet she may hafta pay for all of it being that they weren't given a heads up about it.. good luck!
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FORMAL - and that's formal 'miss manners' etiquette - dictates that the MOH and BMs pay for and host the shower. It is considered 'improper' for the mom or sisters of the bride (unless in the bridal party) to host the event. But this is 2008, and, seeing as how many of us live with FH, I think we can throw the whole formal etiquette thing out the window. The formal thing dates back to the time when the bride's parents paid for everything, etc...
What I see is that the MOH does most of the coordination for the event, and everyone chips in for the payment.
A friend of mine is not so lucky right now. She is the MOH, and the MOB gave her a list of 40 people she HAD TO invite to the shower, and is saying she should have to pay for it since she is paying for the wedding. My poor friend is footing almost the entire bill, for 60 people, herself.
mmm117
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In my experience it has always been women in the bride's family that pay for the shower (mom, aunts, sisters, family friend - whatever). The non-relative bridesmaids just show up like regular invitees and maybe give a little speech. The bridesmaids do however plan and pay for the bachelorette.
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Posted by MJDoc12
My mom paid for the shower itself -- while my BMs paid for all decorations, favors, party games, etc.
I thought that was pretty fair.
I think this is how it has been done for almost every shower I've been to. My mom paid for mine, I believe - I didn't ask so it's possible FMIL chipped in, no idea - and my sister organized most of it, with some help from my cousin (who would have been a BM if we had more than just a MOH and best man).
Saram
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my mom paid for the whole shower..bm's were responsible for the games and organizing the day..
