Who Pays For Bridal SHower

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:21 PM

Who Pays For Bridal SHower

Just wondering if My Mom of the Bride Pays the whole bill?
My sister is my MOH,

Is it common for FMIL to pitch in or not?

The bridal party consists of FMIL's daugher and her neice, both students who dont have much $$

snwb08 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:22 PM

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everyone is different. I always here its the BMs that chip in, but in my case it has always been my mom who pays for it

TommysWife08 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:22 PM

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i think it varies in every situation... for me, it will be all the girl family members and the bridal party... but i am crazzy italian so this is the norm for my family

HTH

jteach711 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:23 PM

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It really depends.

In my situation it is my entire bridal party that is splitting the cost, I have like 8 girls.

Some people are fortunate enough that their mothers can pay for the whole thing (not my case)

Cheryl28 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:24 PM

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my mom is doing it...but Every BP i have been in the girls paid

beachbum05 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:25 PM

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This is the topic of discussion lately.

I feel bad all around.

Most of my BMs are full time grad students with no $$ to their name. My mom doesn't have money either....

I feel bad all around. I wish I had a backyard so that we could have it there.

MeaganAndJoeC Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:28 PM

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Depends.. In my case it is my mom and my MOH, which is my sister

nmagel Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:29 PM

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My mom and BP paid.

snwb08 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:29 PM

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Posted by beachbum05

This is the topic of discussion lately.

I feel bad all around.

Most of my BMs are full time grad students with no $$ to their name. My mom doesn't have money either....

I feel bad all around. I wish I had a backyard so that we could have it there.

i would love love love a backyard shower, just a bbq. i feel like it's more fun when it's less formal.

we always have like 80 ppl at our showers though so it's not happening...

Bella77 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:30 PM

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My mom isn't in a great financial situation, so I believe my sis/MOH is taking on the burden there, with some contributions from the BP I think.

lwny427 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:31 PM

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In previous bp's i've been in, the mob pays the bulk of it, and the bm's and moh take care of certain details or chip in for the shower. Not sure what is happening with mine. I think my mom is probably paying.

MeaganAndJoeC Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:32 PM

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Posted by MeaganAndJoeC

Depends.. In my case it is my mom and my MOH, which is my sister

if the bridal party doesn't chip in then they usually wil l chip in to buy you a big gift.

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:33 PM

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Yea i figured the MOB has to foot the bill, my mom doesnt have alot of money, neither do my BM's
Its alot to ask, FMIL on the other hand has $$ but probably wont contribute a dime

My sister had a baby shower, i know this is different, and her MIL offered to split the cost with me and my mom, so it was split 3 ways wich was very helpful

Espo22 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:33 PM

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I think nowadays everybody does it differently, i guess whatever is best for your loved ones or whoever will say they'll do it.

Ive seen bp's chipping in, the MOB paying for it, FIL's or a combination of 2 of them or all of them.

I know my mom is paying, MOH is helping out and today my mom actually went to meet with FMIL bc she offered to help

mrspalomino148 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:35 PM

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I think 3 out of the 4 of my girls are contributing, and my mom the rest... its next saturday shhhhh

AS Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:36 PM

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I would think the moms pay. My sisters are the MOH's Im sure everyone important will pitch in. If no one can't pay then I will pay for it, I have no problem with that

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:40 PM

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Yea i just spoke to FMIL, and she goes its your thing, she doesnt want to invite anyone either, because she feels people already gave us engagement gifts.

and FH's cousin adn sister are in the my bridal party and they have ZERO interest in helping....i guess i am kinda regretting having them in it,

snwb08 Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:53 PM

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

Yea i just spoke to FMIL, and she goes its your thing, she doesnt want to invite anyone either, because she feels people already gave us engagement gifts.

and FH's cousin adn sister are in the my bridal party and they have ZERO interest in helping....i guess i am kinda regretting having them in it,

seems so weird - she has money but no interest in helping with your shower?? did you have an e-party? I know fh's side thought us having an e-party was weird but my family always did that. some of his aunts complained that they'd have to give us a gift for our eparty, shower, and wedding. is that how she is thinking of it?

SugaBeans Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:54 PM

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my mom said she is doing my shower

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Dec 02, 2007 05:57 PM

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Posted by snwb08

Posted by TheFutureMrsM

Yea i just spoke to FMIL, and she goes its your thing, she doesnt want to invite anyone either, because she feels people already gave us engagement gifts.

and FH's cousin adn sister are in the my bridal party and they have ZERO interest in helping....i guess i am kinda regretting having them in it,

seems so weird - she has money but no interest in helping with your shower?? did you have an e-party? I know fh's side thought us having an e-party was weird but my family always did that. some of his aunts complained that they'd have to give us a gift for our eparty, shower, and wedding. is that how she is thinking of it?

Yup probably, if she doesnt invite all her friends, and cousins I am going to have a small crowd, probably like 15-20 people

We had an E-Party, I am also thinking of asking my FH to Help out with paying the majority of the Shower, because my mom has no money, My FH pays her cell phone as an add on to her phone, i feel bad for her, and if my FH will help out, i would be so happy

ETA: The people that she would invite were not invited to the E-Party...most of htem just gave gifts on their own.