I am a little confused as to who pays for the shower. My mom and sis are NOT loaded at all. Would love for someone to clear this up for me!
Kristina2009
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These days I think very often the mother of the bride hosts the shower (and at time bridesmaids pitch in too). It use to be that Bridesmaids hosted the shower but these days they are not pot luck house parties but something so much more extravagent.
As a BM in many wedddings I have never had to contribute (but I would if it were not a crazy amount) and I think my mom will cover my shower (although my sister, MOH may pitch in with some extras).
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Usually the bridal parties splits it...but sometimes the MOH and mother will split the cost. I am the MOH for my brother's wedding...My mom is paying for the food, I am paying for decorations/favors/ etc., and my aunt is allowing us to use her house for the shower. For both of my cousins' showers, both mothers paid for it. Everyone is different and it really depends on who can afford it. I think the easiest is if everyone just pitches in a little bit.
kweber322
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It really depends...my mom is paying for mine but I've been in bridal parties where I've been asked to contribute.
Aristotelina
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It all depends...either your mom/sister(s) or your bridal party.
I dont see why brides cant contribute too though. I kinda want to help ppay for the favors at mine.
NickandTara426
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my mom and i just had this conversation today. she said the bridal party is supposed to plan it. but i've heard otherwise from girls on here
MannysBunny
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My mom is paying for my shower.
beram63
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BP and/or bride's parents
ETA: just to put it out there--there was a time when the bridal shower was just a luncheon @ someone's house where the ladies got together to rally around a young women before her wedding to give her the things she needs to run a household. it doesn't have to be this $40-$50pp ordeal. that's NY keeping-up-with-the-jones mentality. if people have the money for something fancier, the that's wonderful, but it doesn't have to be that way. JMO
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Posted by beram63
BP and/or bride's parents
ETA: just to put it out there--there was a time when the bridal shower was just a luncheon @ someone's house where the ladies got together to rally around a young women before her wedding to give her the things she needs to run a household. it doesn't have to be this $40-$50pp ordeal. that's NY keeping-up-with-the-jones mentality. if people have the money for something fancier, the that's wonderful, but it doesn't have to be that way. JMO
Very well put.
ace730
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Thanks guys! My shower will actually be in MI so I don't have to keep up with the NY Jones', lol, but I just wanted to be clear!
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Posted by beram63
BP and/or bride's parents
ETA: just to put it out there--there was a time when the bridal shower was just a luncheon @ someone's house where the ladies got together to rally around a young women before her wedding to give her the things she needs to run a household. it doesn't have to be this $40-$50pp ordeal. that's NY keeping-up-with-the-jones mentality. if people have the money for something fancier, the that's wonderful, but it doesn't have to be that way. JMO
I totally agree with you! When my BFF got married in 2004, we (the BP) threw her a backyard shower at her aunt's house. Aunt and uncle got the tent, tables, chairs. We bought the food/drink/decorations. It was fun, she LOVED her shower, and everyone had a lovely time. It's all about what you make of it - a time to celebrate the bride and shower her with gifts to set up house. A little food and some good conversation is all you need!
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When my BFF had her shower last year her mother covered for most of it, but as her MOH I paid for her flower centerpieces, the bridal parties liquor bill and decorations...plus gifts and party game favors of course. HTH
dazies1011
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I know my mom will be paying along with the girls helping out.
mcbride62009
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for my sisters my mom is paying 1/2 and the girls are paying the rest.
JoesFutureWife
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For my shower, my mom paid for everything. She believes its her role as MOB. For one of the weddings i am in i had to contribute $250 before a gift to host the shower. Today i dont think there is really a right way to do it meaning anyone can take responsibility for the shower. Hope this makes sense.
