My mom is beginning to plan my wedding shower and wants me to give her a list of people so she and my sister can start looking at places, invitations, themes...etc. How are you deciding who to invite, especially with your FH's side? Do you have to invite every female guest from your wedding list? I'm having a hard time deciding where to draw the line!
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You absolutely do NOT have to invite every female on your guest list. I invited all family from my and FH's side, bridesmaids and groomsmen's wives, plus my closest friends or girls I may not be as close with now but have known for a long time and couldn't imagine not inviting them after all the memories. Altogether, it came to about 40 people.
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Thanks for the response! What you did and your number seems perfect. I'm just a little nervous because FH doesn't have as much family as I have, and I've only met his aunts and cousins maybe once or twice. I feel like I should just invite them all because there aren't many. But at the same time, I feel like I barely know them.
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we invited aunts, cousins, siblings, and friends.. no extended family (like our parent's cousins or aunts) and none of the coworkers.... my shower is this saturday, and we have 62 people going and 80-85 were invited because my FMIL is one of 6 girls and my family is pretty large
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My mom is doing my shower as well and we were talking about it the other day. Only close family and my friends.
Vilardi82
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I didn't include every girl on the wedding guest list.
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I think it depends. I went to a shower at Lady Mendl's Tea Salon last year because my fiance was the best man. I'd met the bride a handful of times with her groom, but we're not close. I'd say she invited about 30 people.
My sister got married last year and we threw a surprise bridal shower at her mother in law's house and it was just family (her in-laws and family) and that was about a dozen people.
It depends on how small or big you want it. I found both showers fun and they were both with a good size amount of people (12-30)
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we invited almost 90 to my shower. I don't know what the final number will be because it is a surprise. I invited just close friends & family. Basically I went through my list and chose who I wanted to be there. I didn't invite my dad's coworkers wives or family of FHs that I didn't know/have a close relationship with.
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We invited 56 people to my bridal shower, which was almost every female invited to the wedding except my FH coworkers. Some people weren't invited purely because they were added to the wedding invite list after the bridal shower invitations went out. I wouldn't have minded a smaller shower, but FMIL seems to want to do everything big. I have a realllllllyyyy small family (it is just my mom and sister) so it's kinda awkward for me, but I know everyone invited. Mine is this Sunday! :D
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My invite list was 45 but the total going is 27. I invited friends and family. I drew the line at women I didn't know, if they were outside of FH family.
Who to Invite- Bridal Shower - Long Island Weddings
I think the guest list for mine is around 40-50? I gave my mom the names of a few of the ladies that she might not have thought of, FMIL gave their side of the family, and the rest was up to my mom. I hope i invited all the right people, i worry too!
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I just gave my mom the final list of people, which came out to 40. I ended up keeping it limited to people that I knew, which was family (both mine and FH's) and close friends. It caused some issues with my FMIL, who wanted to invite all these ladies that I've NEVER met. But it all worked out in the end.
I say invite those that you want there, but I agree with the ladies - you don't have to invite all the women that's on your wedding guest list.
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So I spoke to FMIL and she said everyone invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower! My number is now at 78! I'm going to take everyone's advice, hold strong, and see if that number can be cut a little. I think inviting everyone is over the top. I also feel like that's a big number, and a big burden, on my mom.
