Who to invite with guests?

I'm so confused on which guests to invite with a guest. We have a few early 20 year olds and 2 that are like 18 or 19....none of them have boyfriends. Do you think they should be invited with a guest or should I only invite people that have a significant other with a guest? I'm trying to keep the guest list down!!

Thanks

I'm personally inviting everyone over the age of 18 with a guest.

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Posted by chris1082

I'm personally inviting everyone over the age of 18 with a guest.

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this

We're paying for everything ourselves and to help cut cost, we decided that no one (cousins in their 20's to parent s friends in their 50's) gets a guest unless they are:

-Engaged
-Married
-Living together

This way we're not picking & choosing who's relationship is serious & who's isn't.

Our Guest list went from 298 - 274 by doing this Mean but fair ...

it all depends on you - i would have loved to invite everyone with a guest but unfortunately my budget would not allow that. if you are able to invite with a guest then do so, or if you are concerned with meeting your minimum then invite with a guest.

for us, since money and numbers are an issue, you only get invited with a guest if you are living together or engaged. invites went out this morning...i am sure we will get some complaints but too bad!

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Posted by pjc92980

it all depends on you - i would have loved to invite everyone with a guest but unfortunately my budget would not allow that. if you are able to invite with a guest then do so, or if you are concerned with meeting your minimum then invite with a guest.

for us, since money and numbers are an issue, you only get invited with a guest if you are living together or engaged. invites went out this morning...i am sure we will get some complaints but too bad!

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Yeah...we are pretty much paying for the majority of the wedding ourselves so budget does play a huge issue.

Thanks for your advice girls!

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Posted by chris1082

I'm personally inviting everyone over the age of 18 with a guest.

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same here

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Posted by JuneBride14

we only invited people with guests if they are married, engaged, living together, or close to engagement.... or if they would know no one else at the wedding (but that was only his mom's out of state friend)

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same here

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Posted by JuneBride14

we only invited people with guests if they are married, engaged, living together, or close to engagement.... or if they would know no one else at the wedding (but that was only his mom's out of state friend)

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this

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Posted by JuneBride14

we only invited people with guests if they are married, engaged, living together, or close to engagement.... or if they would know no one else at the wedding (but that was only his mom's out of state friend)

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same. we'll see if anyone else asks for a guest.

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Posted by The Cassie

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Posted by JuneBride14

we only invited people with guests if they are married, engaged, living together, or close to engagement.... or if they would know no one else at the wedding (but that was only his mom's out of state friend)

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same. we'll see if anyone else asks for a guest.

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we had two call my FH to ask if they could bring their gfs and one replied 2 were attending- 'if that is ok with you'

we felt put into a spot with them so said yes- so we lucked out only having to add 3 guests we werent planning on inviting

Aside from those in their teens/early 20s, EVERYONE is being invited with guest at our wedding. Personally, I'd never attend a wedding if I was invited without a guest.

Before I met my FH, I was not involved seriously with anyone for 4 years. I was always dating guys for a few months here and there. If someone had invited me without a guest (I'm in my 30s), I would have declined the invitation.

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Posted by chris1082

I'm personally inviting everyone over the age of 18 with a guest.

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This

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Posted by NYtherapist

Aside from those in their teens/early 20s, EVERYONE is being invited with guest at our wedding. Personally, I'd never attend a wedding if I was invited without a guest.

Before I met my FH, I was not involved seriously with anyone for 4 years. I was always dating guys for a few months here and there. If someone had invited me without a guest (I'm in my 30s), I would have declined the invitation.

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Oh I agree..I would never not invite someone with a guest who was in their mid-late 20's or 30's. My cousin actually did that to me last year (I was 29), so I declined. I just know these 18 year old cousins don't have boyfriends and I know its mean, but I'd hate to pay for some random person. The cousins are also sisters so at least they have each other

personally, having been someone who was invited without a +1 just because she wasn't engaged, i find it to be really insulting to draw the line there.

i was a BM in my friends wedding and the wedding was 2 months before mine and FH's 2 year anniversary. he wasn't invited at first (he later was) merely because we weren't engaged or living together. but we were clearly in a serious, committed relationship. my FH and i were more than a little upset.

we are inviting everyone with a guest who is in a relationship with someone at the time - not a 'flavor of the week' but a committed relationship. in my opinion, that is the only way to draw the line that won't insult someone and/or hurt someone's feelings.