Who to Tip

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This is a great article. But it doesn't say anything about the Maitre D or the Bridal Attendant. My BM told me I should tip the Maitre D an extra $350 on top of the 20% gratuity they are charging me. And then I have to tip the Bridal Attendant on top of that! What does everyone else think about this?

What has anyone else done about this?

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Posted by blaine08

my RH suggested 75-100 for bridal attendant and $3-4 pp person for maitre'd. Thats insane.

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$3-4 pp!!! If you only have 150 people that means you are tipping $450-$600 to the maitre d. I would think that's a llittle crazy! You would be paying them over $100 an hour! I think the tipping is out of control.

On top of that, if you are getting married in a church, my church told me that I should tip the Priest what ever I can afford. They are already charging me $750 for the church!! I think the Priest's fee should be included with that.

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Posted by Nechama1

I really don't understand why a 'tip' is in reality a salary. 100$/hour for the maitre D is insane.

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I'm quitting my job and becoming a maitre D. They seem to get paid a hell of a lot more than I do!

Where I used to work the Maitre' D got paid good money. It was a small place so the guy was the only one and he made about $400-$600 per event and on good weekends he did 3-4 events!

When I checked out CLM the Bm told me there is no need to tip them so mch. They make good money and a tip of $1-$2 per person is enough. He said think about if they do 2-3 events a weekend thats a lot of money that is tax free.

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Posted by MRSin2009

Where I used to work the Maitre' D got paid good money. It was a small place so the guy was the only one and he made about $400-$600 per event and on good weekends he did 3-4 events!

When I checked out CLM the Bm told me there is no need to tip them so mch. They make good money and a tip of $1-$2 per person is enough. He said think about if they do 2-3 events a weekend thats a lot of money that is tax free.

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$1-$2 seems a lot more reasonable. What about the Bridal Attendant. Do you have suggestions for this person as well?

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Posted by brideinstride

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Posted by MRSin2009

Where I used to work the Maitre' D got paid good money. It was a small place so the guy was the only one and he made about $400-$600 per event and on good weekends he did 3-4 events!

When I checked out CLM the Bm told me there is no need to tip them so mch. They make good money and a tip of $1-$2 per person is enough. He said think about if they do 2-3 events a weekend thats a lot of money that is tax free.

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$1-$2 seems a lot more reasonable. What about the Bridal Attendant. Do you have suggestions for this person as well?

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Usually the bridal attendant got different amounts. She was great but sometimes she would get $75 and other time she would get $200. Depending on how good mine is I will give $100-$150

I think I want to be a rbidal attendant or a Maitre'D. I need the non-taxable tip $$.

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Posted by bluekat16

I think I want to be a rbidal attendant or a Maitre'D. I need the non-taxable tip $$.

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Same here!!! imagine 2-4 times a week getting $100 if not more off the books!!!!

Don't forget that tips are not mandatory...they are a reward for exceptional service. If you feel that your bridal attendant didn't do anything for you, then don't tip him/her. And if service s-ucks or something goes wrong, that's the maitre'd's responsibility, so don't tip him/her.

The $ amounts you'll hear and read are guidelines if the service is exceptional...if it's sub-par let them know with a cheap tip.